SELF-TAUGHT OR INTRODUCED?

[bb****]

The first time you learned about fetishes and kinks in general, did you have a helping hand 🫱 guiding you or did you educate yourself 🤓 alone before practicing?

[Ch****]

I had thoughts about what I was trying to achieve before I knew it existed. Then the Internet arrived allowing me to explore and find others with the same idea. We had a web site where there was only about 20 of us globally. So I would say I was at the beginning of it

[Masked_Gaby]

i learn from article on the internet. And now its been 7 years i'm into fetishes and kinks

[Ki****]

It was very self thought and home made and deffo has been messy...

[TheBookCollector]

It was a TV show on hedonsim and various films like 9 1/2 weeks, The Secretar. After thay llt it was researching and learning from books and online resources.
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Then it was trying to find the local community which was the next step.

[Mr****]

Had kinky ideas and abstract concepts all my life without knowing what to do with them. Then stumbled on the right porn, to be frank. Inspired by that, self-taught.

[It****]

I was introduced to it by my first mistress, but in hindsight, I would have preferred to be self introduced to it. I would have made more mistakes, that's for sure, but it took me so much time to distinguish what I liked to what I was taught to like.

[No****]

I met my Dom and he introduced me to kink just over a year ago. I was pretty ignorant before

[yo****]

I had a helping hand at 17 it was really great

[Deleted Member]

Self. I think I had interest from a young age; playing cops & robbers/cowboys & Indians etc I always wanted to be caught and tied up.


But it wasn't until my 1st time when my bf whose 1st time it was too, that I knew for sure. I don't know what it was called then, or that there was so much more. Just that I _needed_ *** and submission.


I wonder if he ever thinks of me.

[Spriguns]

Still learning , I suppose I have always been drawn to the fetish world. But now I am single again its time to dive in head first

[Ri****]

I was told that she liked to be pinned down and bit and at first I laughed, it was a funny thing but she was serious, we gave it a try, I ***d her a little and it was pretty much my path was decided. I liked leaving marks and pretty much ended up trying to find ways to leave better ones. I'd like to say I was self taught cause pride but honestly that was an introduction. I really had a "this better not awaken something in me" moment.

[Ri****]

@Spriguns good luck out there, man. I hope you find what you're looking for.

[kimutu72]

self taught and still learning

[LordMacTire83]

I first knew I was "different"... when I was about 9 or 10 and I found my dad's magazines in my parents' closet.
In one of the "Penthouse" mags that he had, had a cartoon of two gorgeous naked women, tied to a stake to be sacrificed...
THAT was the spark that ignited it all for me!!!

[Deleted Member]

I was fortunate enough to have a mentor when I was 18 she introduced me to the lifestyle and it constantly evolves and gets better all the time but if I had not had her to guide me, I would’ve never done it. I think her every day for introducing me to this wonderful craft!!

[Vo****]

I had been interested for quite some time with BDSM. First Man I hooked up with after getting out of a very long term vanilla relationship taught me about BDSM and ENM. Still very thankful for him. 🖤

[Jo****]

I remember on 8th grade, around 2004, playing flash games and then finding "franks adventure" on a site. Introducing me to hentai at the age of 9.
After that it has been a journey.

[Deleted Member]

48 minutes ago, VoodooPrincess222 said:

I had been interested for quite some time with BDSM. First Man I hooked up with after getting out of a very long term vanilla relationship taught me about BDSM and ENM. Still very thankful for him. 🖤

And it all depends on your partner. I’ve had some that are horrible to be with finding that Dom you can. Trust is priceless.

[Vo****]

1 hour ago, bozeman517624 said:

And it all depends on your partner. I’ve had some that are horrible to be with finding that Dom you can. Trust is priceless.

Very much agreed. I have lucked out numerous times. My very first Dom is the Dom I rate all others by. His communication is impeccable, he builds me up, provides comfort and love, keeps me honest with myself, and my goals. In the last year he has also taught me how to be touched again (I was touch deprived for many years with an ex,) has taught me to listen to my body and my gut. I ask so many questions almost in an interview format before ever meeting so we don’t waste each others time... fake Doms usually bow out by this point when they realize I won’t immediately submit. I currently have two beyond amazing Doms (I’m ENM, and they know about each other.) I don’t think I’d be at this point had I of not met that first man who helped me open up. 🖤

[su****]

One of my early relationships was with a woman more than twice my age who introduced me. She was the epitome of the Mommy to me ( little girl). Under her guidance I was guided and advised in many aspects of adult life which my own parents failed to teach. I’ve had mixed feelings about the relationship throughout my life, but I cannot deny that I wouldn’t have the professional success I’ve had without her input in my young life.

[Gr****]

I had an interest in it and spent ages looking up articles and first person accounts online, as well as joining groups to read about people's experiences and questions before ever attempting anything alone or with a partner.

[Da****]

For me it was self taught, still currently learning!

[Kinkywriter]

Self taught but also plenty of reading and writing stories for others. And one very good friend who I know I can talk to about anything.

[Deleted Member]

Guess there were signs when I was little - I would imagine being tied up and rescued and stuff like that. As an adult, was gradually introduced to it thru movies and things, and the city I lived in had a lot of kinky events and people would talk about it. Then met someone on Tinder who introduced me all the things :)