ABDL v DDLG?

May 5, 2024

Good question! I can only speak for ABDL, but here is my 2 cents. It seems the only difference is what age the participants want to pretend to be.
DD/LG people seem to age play as 5-15 ish. At that age you won't need diapers, so caring for your little boy/girl looks and plays out differently.
ABDL is all about regressing to a baby 0-4 ish. At that age you need to be diapered and cared for like a complete baby. It's not for most people, but we exist.
Some other differences might be the dynamic between the partners. DD/LG seems to be about controlling your partner and acting like a father figure, keeping your LG in line while caring for them. ABDL can have that dynamic, (where a DD changes and babies his LG) but doesn't need that. The partners can both be littles, and pretend to be babies without a dominant role.
Everyone is different, so I'm sure there is lots of overlap, but to make it easy. If you hate diapers, ABDL isn't for you. It's an essential part of our kink. If you are into age play and don't mind diapers, than ABDL could be for you.

September 2, 2024

It’s complicated you can’t put it into just one category people who do that myself included it can mean different things to them everyone is different for me it’s hard to differentiate my personality sometimes to balance it out because me and how I am doing this is completely different but it’s there always has been started as long as I remember

March 25

May 5, 2024, Deleted profile said:

Good question! I can only speak for ABDL, but here is my 2 cents. It seems the only difference is what age the participants want to pretend to be.
DD/LG people seem to age play as 5-15 ish. At that age you won't need diapers, so caring for your little boy/girl looks and plays out differently.
ABDL is all about regressing to a baby 0-4 ish. At that age you need to be diapered and cared for like a complete baby. It's not for most people, but we exist.
Some other differences might be the dynamic between the partners. DD/LG seems to be about controlling your partner and acting like a father figure, keeping your LG in line while caring for them. ABDL can have that dynamic, (where a DD changes and babies his LG) but doesn't need that. The partners can both be littles, and pretend to be babies without a dominant role.
Everyone is different, so I'm sure there is lots of overlap, but to make it easy. If you hate diapers, ABDL isn't for you. It's an essential part of our kink. If you are into age play and don't mind diapers, than ABDL could be for you.
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First of all, I need to correct a few things here:

DDLG is not just about age play and is definitely not only about acting as a 5-15 year old. Age regression and age play can BOTH be part of DDLG, not only age play, but neither is a requirement. DDLG is about emotional care, trust, and nurturing. Some littles engage in age play, where they act like a younger version of themselves, while others may regress to a younger mental age (age regression), and they seek emotional comfort and care, not necessarily acting out a specific age range like 5-15. And some don't participate in either at all. The DDLG dynamic focuses on a caregiver and little relationship, where the caregiver provides nurturing, protection, and guidance. Age regression and age play are just two ways some people may experience this dynamic, but they are not mandatory.
About ABDL: You’re correct in saying ABDL is about diapers, but it’s not exclusive to regression. ABDL is centered around diaper wearing and can include regression, but not every ABDL participant engages in full-blown age regression. Some people only have a diaper fetish and are not interested in being treated like a baby or regressing mentally to an infantile state. That’s where the misunderstanding often comes from—ABDL doesn’t always mean full regression. It’s simply about the diaper kink, and some people may engage in both the diaper fetish and age regression, but those are two separate elements.
Control and DDLG: The idea that DDLG is about controlling your partner or acting like a father figure to "keep your LG in line" is completely wrong and misrepresents the dynamic. DDLG is about emotional connection and nurturing, not about domination or control. The caregiver role in DDLG is focused on supporting and protecting the little, not about dominating them or asserting control over them. That’s a common misconception. The caregiver may be in a dominant role, but that doesn’t mean they are trying to control their partner in a manipulative or authoritarian way. It’s about guidance and affection, not control. If you want to control your partner that's more in line with a slave dynamic than a DDLG one.