DDLG. A question for littles & middles.

January 6

For most of us its genuinely a part of our personality, our identity. We struggled with the same things before we realized what our headspace was. Also for Doms your trigger for Dom space is your sub so when your not around her\him your able to be in your regular headspace. For Littles/Middles we have alot of triggers other than our Dom. Movies, songs, walking by the toy isle in the store, talking about a hobby you enjoy in Little/Middle space. Squishmellows or beanie babies at the gas station. So it makes it harder to avoid going into that headspace. For instance I cant watch animated movies with people who dont know Im a Little because watching automatically makes me regress. So im battling my Little side the whole movie.

February 22

I find that I get kind of crabby when I'm not able to go into little space for a day or two. When I get out of it, I still tend to be very quiet and submissive for the rest of the day.

March 5

For me, it's a headspace that i sometimes struggle to snap in & out of. I might accidentally slip when i need to be big, and that can be really difficult & stressful to control, but I've found that if I let myself have a few days a week where i can be little for a few hours, it makes it easier to be big when i have to

March 18

As a DD, I can speak on my own littles experience and say that she does experience consequences from having to return to an adult mindset. It can become emotionally draining and cause some serious fits of depression somewhat often. She has to return to her little headspace after the day is done, often choosing to cuddle with me and her stuffie, sometimes she requires her pacifier and other times she can cope without if it's been a less than stressful day. But she always returns to that headspace at some point once we no longer have those responsibilities to worry about. If she doesn't, she becomes trapped in a very bad downward spiral that can lead to being emotionally disconnected and easily upset by small things that most wouldn't get frustrated with. Like right now, she is cuddled into my side as I type this. Pacifier firmly in place and stuffie cuddled tightly. It was a very stressful day that saw her having a very bad emotional breakdown later in the evening. She's by no means better yet, but she is coping and I'm doing my best to make it easier for her. Every little is different and many can easily switch between headspace with no consequences, while others live in a constant place of little headspace, sometimes due to earlier traumas that deeply affected them. And sometimes it's just a roleplay for some. I am ALWAYS in Daddy mode no matter what, as such, it can be somewhat draining as well, but I have a far larger capacity to deal with stress, particularly in comparison to my little. It really depends on the individual, and even being in the Daddy/Mommy Dom headspace can have it's challenges, as well as having to move in and out of that headspace as well. I find that, between my little and actually being a father as well, it helps being able to maintain that headspace at all times. Otherwise, it would be a far more drain on my mental and emotional capacity. But always remember, little headspace is that escape for many, so any time spent on the adult world will definitely have its consequences, the longer the time, the worse the consequences often become for the mental and emotional state.
And this was typed with my littles input as well, she's very adamant that I make sure her input is included, because it's very much from her perspective that I understand as much as I do about her own headspace. When it comes to matters involving littles, I always look to her so that I can always give the best advice I can. It is because of her that I understand how to be the best caregiver I can be. Even as an actually parent too, it has softened my edges and made me more understanding to compassion and empathy. Without her, I wouldn't be who I am today.