Instant meets - pros & cons?

[kimutu72]

Ive always prefered chatting on here first mainly to make sure that the other person wants the same thing and I want the same as them, you could meet someone and chat and find that your both looking for different things, no sexual attraction then what happens? Theres no right or wrong way go with your gut feeling and if they are interested they wnt want to rush

[sh****]

Pete I think it all depends on desired outcome, relationship type, and whether or not you feel more comfortable getting to know someone in person or virtually. I agree with most of these comments. No right or wrong way just the way that works for you.

[Deleted Member]

Depends how you hit it off here, irl in a safe public place relatively soon

[JD****]

Gee ya think....smh

[Je****]

Because of the extremely high rate of scammers among us, I always as for a meet after explaining my kink is text .

[lo****]

  15 hours ago, JerseyDmat said:

Because of the extremely high rate of scammers among us, I always as for a meet after explaining my kink is text .

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Or like... don't give anyone ***? There's that option.

[An****]

Public meetings are best at first in my experience.

[lo****]

  20 hours ago, Anansi69 said:

Public meetings are best at first in my experience.

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WHEN you are ready to meet in person, yes.

[MissTakenDeep]

I take the same approach as you tbh. Messages on here for a while and then a phonecall, if I’m still interested after that I will arrange a face to face someone very vanilla and very local to me. That might take 2/3 weeks of talking, it might take more and very occasionally, it can take less. I wouldn’t be pressured by someone though, if I felt pressured that would the end of our interaction.

[An****]

What kinds of things make you feel pressured?

[An****]

  May 19, locketheart said:

WHEN you are ready to meet in person, yes.

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🙄🤨 Well, no sheissa! Thanks for that, Captain Obvious!

[Cucky45015]

I prefer to meet fairly quickly in a public setting. IMO it's best way for me to know if there is even a vibe between us. I just go with the flow though. Most women I've met are slower to meet which I'm fine with. I usually look for ques to when I think they are starting to want to meet or say something like if and when you're ready to me just let me know.

[De****]

As a woman i have to take extra measures and that means chatting virtually for longer than most guys like. If that bothers them and they push to meet sooner than uncomfortable with, it tells me they already can’t respect my boundaries and I graciously decline.