Advice on finding a new dom!

[Lilfox232]

Hello!

I am writing to ask advice on how to find a new dom. I am not new to BDSM, and have been in a very kinky relationship or two previously, but fell into them naturally. I'd really like to look for some fun again, but am really unsure about how to go about it online! Any advice about kicking things off, or just plain cheering me on, would be really welcomed!

 

Thank you!

[PsycoticDreamer]

Don't rush. They will come when they do. You don't want to get hurt over not taking it slow!

[Sams-7095]

Yes good advice I'm new to this site to lol

[Deleted Member]

You’ve made the right first step by joining this site, but as PsycoticDreamer says, don’t rush into anything, the right person will find you x

[ey****]

basically. patience. 

but also thinking within yourself of what would make a *good* Dom (not to be mistaken for the thirsty guys that probably already messaged you) interested?  And of course you're worth it - all good subs are, but how can you show and know your worth.

[Si****]

Ask loads of questions, no really! ask LOADS. If the right people are talking, they will be open and honest. Even if they say they don't want to share something in particular until they know you better.  There are no silly question, in fact ask some, its a good way to test their patience. lol Take time to form a friendship and some foundations of trust first. Ask them to give an answer to a hypothetical question to gauge their personality and to see how they see things. Chatting has no risks (and it free, don't ever pay to chat) and keep personal detail out of it until you feel sure you have an idea of who you are talking to and if there could be a connection. Also make sure its a two way info share, if they ask you something they should also give their view or answer to the same question. I hope you find what you are looking for.

Edited January 11, 2020 by Hotplay
another thought came to mind, so added it lol

[Deleted Member]

Avoid the keyboard fantasist trap "What are you going to do to me" style questions. Most legitimate Doms will roll their eyes at that and just blank you. You might be a masochistic *** slut, you don't necessarily have to advertise it. If the Dom is genuine he WILL have read your profile and read what it is you like.

If your profile is blank or a one line affair, its not going to be attractive to a genuine Dom. These guys as i said WILL read your profile, so put in some effort, if you haven't already. You can usually tell who the genuine Doms are, because most will have done the same.

And take do take a look at how they describe their interests. If it reads like this guy has watched way way too much porn... their only content is probably just porn.

You know the type, "I am going to tell you what your limits are" or "I don't do safewords, you take what I dish out and like it"..... Porn only wannabees. They've seen some video of a girl who takes a thrashing with no complaints and the image enters their brains that no limits sluts exist.... no that girl expressed her limits off camera, and the Dominant who plays with them, never violates those limits, so she never uses her safeword. These morons never understand this.

But the advice is inexhaustible, some may disagree with what I have said.... thats their opinion, and they are entitled to it