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When you give total control over to your Top you given them a most precious gift and those that willing to do so are rare.
Be careful though. It's nice at first but you can literally lose yourself in a relationship of this dynamic.
It comes down to what the collective needs are and is the dynamic a good fit.
This is known as Total Power Exchange or TPE. But, be extremely careful when pursuing a TPE relationship. While it is a great goal to pursue; it takes time, and should take time, to achieve that level of trust between the Dom/Domme and the sub. There are many inexperienced Doms/Dommes out there who would jump into this not really knowing or understanding their responsibilities in such a relationship. Not to mention dishonorable and dishonest people who pose as Doms/Dommes. Find yourself someone who you enjoy and believe you can trust and let the relationship grow naturally from there.
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I lived this but didn't realize others viewed it as controlling and abusive. I realized that it was that because I never actually agreed to it and he didn't have my feelings and well-being in mind while doing it. I then fell into another relationship where it was similar but less obvious because he did so by manipulating me into what he wanted.

I think I've always been drawn to relationships like that because it's what I like. But actually finding someone who gives a damn about me while doing it would be a life-changing experience.
That is so sad to hear. My sub and I had a contract, what was agreed etc. She used to write a daily journal that was to express her true feelings with no comeback. It was a good form of communication and worked well for us.
  17 hours ago, Curiosityanxiety said:
I lived this but didn't realize others viewed it as controlling and abusive. I realized that it was that because I never actually agreed to it and he didn't have my feelings and well-being in mind while doing it. I then fell into another relationship where it was similar but less obvious because he did so by manipulating me into what he wanted.

I think I've always been drawn to relationships like that because it's what I like. But actually finding someone who gives a damn about me while doing it would be a life-changing experience.
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Literally same. Some on here (I won't calk them out ) very much made it seem like he was such a good tpe dome but once we started going he very much did not have my best interest in mind and he also wanted to rush into it which red flag

Power Exchange, and if that party will have the power of attorney and control your financial life it will be called total power exchange. Only slaves in very committed relationships with their stable Dominants could have such type of relationships
24/7 power exchange. It's when your dom has control over everything. I know someone who has this dynamic with their dom. They're in a committed relationship.

As a Dom, I like having contracts that spell things out. That level of control can be EXHAUSTING for me as a Master or as a Daddy Dom. I'd rather state what was acceptable and verify it was done. For example, I'd rather say, "Wear a red top today," knowing she has three or more red shirts to choose from, "and choose a skirt that matches. Make sure the skirt gives me access in the car because we might pull over on the road trip to Sedona." Then, once we are in the car, I'd evaluate her choices. If she chose to disobey me and she is wearing a too that isn't red and/or not wearing a skirt that fits my description, I'd ask, "What is the reason you chose to wear something different from what I told you?" Once if after what she says, doesn't help assure me that i have the level of control we agreed upon, I'd say, "This is not what we agreed upon in our dynamic, as stated in our contract, is it? Did you do this because you want more of my attention? The contract states the punishment for such an infractions is: 1) No sweet treats for the whole trip, 2) edging while bound and naked for three hours, 3) a cuckqueaning scene with you eating a creampie, and 4) loss of the use of your phone other than for phone calls for 24 hours. Pick the three your behavior is asking for." But the contract would clearly delineate both the level of control i am to assume and the suggested infractions before we would do anything. I have a template I built on Google Docs and share it before entering into a D/s situation, then we fill it out together. My question for those of you who like to surrender all of that control over your lives is, do you like your D-type to want to encourage you to make self improvements and grow independence or prefer to just be the "Barbie girl" like you're a f**k doll that happens to be an actual human?

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  October 19, AZGentleDD4lg said:

As a Dom, I like having contracts that spell things out. That level of control can be EXHAUSTING for me as a Master or as a Daddy Dom. I'd rather state what was acceptable and verify it was done. For example, I'd rather say, "Wear a red top today," knowing she has three or more red shirts to choose from, "and choose a skirt that matches. Make sure the skirt gives me access in the car because we might pull over on the road trip to Sedona." Then, once we are in the car, I'd evaluate her choices. If she chose to disobey me and she is wearing a too that isn't red and/or not wearing a skirt that fits my description, I'd ask, "What is the reason you chose to wear something different from what I told you?" Once if after what she says, doesn't help assure me that i have the level of control we agreed upon, I'd say, "This is not what we agreed upon in our dynamic, as stated in our contract, is it? Did you do this because you want more of my attention? The contract states the punishment for such an infractions is: 1) No sweet treats for the whole trip, 2) edging while bound and naked for three hours, 3) a cuckqueaning scene with you eating a creampie, and 4) loss of the use of your phone other than for phone calls for 24 hours. Pick the three your behavior is asking for." But the contract would clearly delineate both the level of control i am to assume and the suggested infractions before we would do anything. I have a template I built on Google Docs and share it before entering into a D/s situation, then we fill it out together. My question for those of you who like to surrender all of that control over your lives is, do you like your D-type to want to encourage you to make self improvements and grow independence or prefer to just be the "Barbie girl" like you're a f**k doll that happens to be an actual human?

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Can't believe I just saw this. It's so good. In regards to your ending question for me it depends on my life circumstances, in the future I would love to be bimboifyed to the point where I'm just a doll that happens to need food evey once in a while. But right now I'm in college and am working full time and would love to be treated like I can grow and be helped grow as a person.

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