hu**** Posted December 31, 2019 Posted December 31, 2019 i’ve always wanted a sub that just knows how to listen are they rare or do they exist
Deleted Member Posted December 31, 2019 Posted December 31, 2019 Have you ever played the sandwich game?. This is where you write down the instructions on how to make a sandwich. This game can have many outcomes depending on how the instruction were given ps common sense can not be used. So with this in mind how is a submissive ment to follow your instructions if they are not very clear.
ca**** Posted December 31, 2019 Posted December 31, 2019 What do you want them to listen to? Think of it like music.....one persons Justin Beiber is another persons Barry Manilow is another persons Marilyn Manson.... i can keep this list going if you like (and also goes to show that there is a lot of shit music out there!!!)
ey**** Posted December 31, 2019 Posted December 31, 2019 Like anything, it depends on the desired outcome. I think the vast majority of subs know how to listen. But, for them to want to follow every command of a Dominant - that takes time to build trust. And of course - if you have a predecided routine or set of rules - these may well differ from someone else's and may be a lot for someone to take in. If you just want the magical sub who will do what you say, when you say it - sometimes even before you say it through the power of telekinesis - then, yeah, these subs don't automatically exist - even those who are very happy with this kind of dynamic have no incentive to do so with, well, every guy that pops up on the internet wanting it.
li**** Posted January 1, 2020 Posted January 1, 2020 Yes training a sub is necessary to reach your desired result
Tatsuchan18 Posted January 2, 2020 Posted January 2, 2020 I was one of those subs who liked to anticipate the needs of my Dominant as a point of pride. So I would learn about them through their bodies and by asking questions. After a while of doing thing after thing for them, they never learned how to “start me up” themselves. Eventually, I ran out of energy and the relationship would start to deteriorate. So i’m also for taking things slow and learning equivalent exchange. :D
di**** Posted January 2, 2020 Posted January 2, 2020 most subs, such as myself, enjoy being instructed on purpose...even though we know what and how to do what you want
Deleted Member Posted January 2, 2020 Posted January 2, 2020 I doubt there is a sub who would like a dynamic with someone who doesn’t want to make some effort ? T there are some experienced subs but they might expect some good reasons to trust and submit to you
Deleted Member Posted January 3, 2020 Posted January 3, 2020 I would say training is necessary yes. Everyone has their unique styles.
Deleted Member Posted January 10, 2020 Posted January 10, 2020 No i was trained to know what to do for my dom
Deleted Member Posted January 10, 2020 Posted January 10, 2020 (edited) Training is part of the fun! It's how you get to know each other's patterns and styles intimately. With a new D-type it's important because a sub should never make assumptions that what a previous D wanted is the same as what a new D wants. A canny sub just won't do that. As an empath and a highly-sensitive person, I also know that 2 people can use the same words but have different meanings or intentions. Training is all about learning to interpret the meanings and intentions behind your Ds words. Plus the training phase is a wonderful opportunity to dish out punishments when your sub gets things wrong! Why wouldn't you want to enjoy that? Edited January 10, 2020 by Deleted Member typo error
ki**** Posted January 11, 2020 Posted January 11, 2020 I think every dom is into different kinky acts and as long as the sub listens, has common sense and obeys the training is only based on specific orders/ demands.
Va**** Posted January 18, 2020 Posted January 18, 2020 There's different types, degrees and levels of subs. And it's not training. It's Comm. Respect. Consent. Anything else is ***. If ur a true DOM or SUB or DOMINATRIX then u would know this. I've been in this life for over 2 decades.
Deleted Member Posted January 18, 2020 Posted January 18, 2020 On 1/10/2020 at 9:20 AM, white_rose said: Plus the training phase is a wonderful opportunity to dish out punishments when your sub gets things wrong! Why wouldn't you want to enjoy that? 😂😂😈 i bet you play the newbie all the time then 😜
Deleted Member Posted January 18, 2020 Posted January 18, 2020 11 minutes ago, FabSeverus said: 😂😂😈 i bet you play the newbie all the time then 😜 Who, Sir, me, Sir? *batting her eyelids
Ky**** Posted January 20, 2020 Posted January 20, 2020 There are a lot of obedient subs out there that "just wanna be good for you" you just gotta know where to look.
do**** Posted February 18, 2020 Posted February 18, 2020 You just have to find the that is truly a trained submission sub. My ex took the time to train me in all formats not all partners do this
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