ey**** Posted January 26, 2020 Posted January 26, 2020 Male entitlement is a big problem and I know this is also something I've been somewhat guilty of in the past but it can get into a little bit of a blurred headfuck of what is entitlement and what you should reasonably expect. However; yep - I think it's definitely important that especially when approaching someone in a Femdom capacity, the question is not "what can your Mistress do for you?" but "what can you do for your Mistress?" (of course, there are reasons we want to serve/play/be-in-a-relationship-with or *whatever* with someone whether it's because of appearance, that they specialise in something we enjoy or their general attitude/opinions aligning with ours - that's a wider thing)
MistressNinaB Posted January 26, 2020 Posted January 26, 2020 Entitlement is the thought that it’s ok to do things behind your partners back and expect them to be accepting.
ey**** Posted January 26, 2020 Posted January 26, 2020 2 hours ago, MistressNinaB said: Entitlement is the thought that it’s ok to do things behind your partners back and expect them to be accepting. it's a form of entitlement but not the only kind Entitlement could probably get it's own thread - but for example, getting someone a gift and expecting anything other than a 'thank you' - feeling someone's rules or boundaries don't apply to you - expecting someone to reply to a message because you took the time to write it... the list goes on.
MistressNinaB Posted January 27, 2020 Posted January 27, 2020 That was just an example..not the end all be all.
To**** Posted January 27, 2020 Posted January 27, 2020 LOL that was a joke btw haha..........defo NOT the way to approach a domme lol......
ThinGuy Posted January 27, 2020 Posted January 27, 2020 I believe that women should count themselves lucky; wading through hundreds of messages while the likes of me only have a few. Dom's being short for dominant: by definition; means having power and influence over others. Being more powerful, successful, influential, or noticeable than other people or things. Also the belief that one is inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment. In nature dominant males have to fight each other to prove who is boss. Females fight over territory also. I think that once the ground rules and red light signal are set; the sub has to obey and take whatever it is they in to.. ❤❤❤😼
PixieDust Posted January 27, 2020 Posted January 27, 2020 Just brilliant Jinx, so well written.........would love to see this pinned 💖💖💖
Deleted Member Posted January 27, 2020 Author Posted January 27, 2020 I have zero experience in this field but I would imaging just chatting like two human beings is always a good starting point.Be polite,respectful and honest.Ive found in my 51 years this is the best way to make new "friends"be it kink or vanilla.
ThinGuy Posted January 27, 2020 Posted January 27, 2020 D/s relationship BDSM, fundamentals: a relationship where one partner is dominant (a sadist) and the other one submits to his/her partner (a masochist). It should be agreed before a D/s relationship what the participants want and rules set to match. Also a bale out criteria.. It should be noted that some submissive people only want the bondage and dominance with heaps of TLC.❤❤❤🌺🌺🌺🕊🕊🕊🚻 Others may want a brutal, degrading and hardcore job 🧨🎃📢🔫💣 while the remainder want somewhere in between.😪😫🤐 In short a prenuptial agreement is key here.. ❤❤❤😼
ey**** Posted January 27, 2020 Posted January 27, 2020 7 hours ago, ThinGuy said: I believe that women should count themselves lucky; wading through hundreds of messages while the likes of me only have a few. so women should think they're lucky because loads of idiots, morons and people who can't read profiles spam their inbox with shit because they want a quick wank ? Can't say I agree.
ey**** Posted January 27, 2020 Posted January 27, 2020 of course not; but if you've got an inbox full of junk then.... the men that don't see themselves like this. They have to be better. And that's not a bad thing. But, if approaching someone you don't know - then opening messages are going to need to be better than "hey" or be better than a generic copy paste mail, better than "here's my fetishes, do them for me" and better than small talk.
Deleted Member Posted January 27, 2020 Author Posted January 27, 2020 9 hours ago, ThinGuy said: I believe that women should count themselves lucky; wading through hundreds of messages while the likes of me only have a few. Dom's being short for dominant: by definition; means having power and influence over others. Being more powerful, successful, influential, or noticeable than other people or things. Also the belief that one is inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment. In nature dominant males have to fight each other to prove who is boss. Females fight over territory also. I think that once the ground rules and red light signal are set; the sub has to obey and take whatever it is they in to.. ❤❤❤😼 I disagree completely. I suggest you do further research. It’s not all about dictionary definitions. Real life experience will prove that to you
ThinGuy Posted January 27, 2020 Posted January 27, 2020 In reply to Jinx "Moreover, it's a matter of respect. I'd rather not see a dick when I'm eating my cereal and perusing my messages " I don't think any sexual organ is ascetically pleasing and is there as natural selections way of procreating the species. What is aesthetically pleasing is a Pre-Raphaelite ***ting or Bronte novel etc. I am beginning to find the tones hear Diva StarZ and PrimaDonna not to mention sexist. Men get irritating PM's as well from people who can't spell or compose a sentence; let alone a paragraph. 😼
MaleswitchTiger Posted January 27, 2020 Posted January 27, 2020 Example this my my own i made up years Ago Tiger comes to room Bows and Kneels i live to worship you and adore you as my personal mistress and mentor,my ass is for you to use and my body is for you to control and i leave under your supremacy comes to room removes Clothes Bows Kneels eyes down unless told to Look at Goddess Divide Stunning Pic Madam am a SwItch Tiger This Breaks the Ice and go from there and told up to Yourself i what send few pics as in Bowing and Kneeling Position and take from there that ido when speaking to a Mistress
Vermin666 Posted January 27, 2020 Posted January 27, 2020 3 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said: so women should think they're lucky because loads of idiots, morons and people who can't read profiles spam their inbox with shit because they want a quick wank ? Can't say I agree. eyemblacksheep 🐑 😉😂 couldn’t have said it better myself, being one of the girls that gets some pretty nasty 🤢 messages you totally hit the nail on the head dude 😉😉
ThinGuy Posted January 27, 2020 Posted January 27, 2020 Well I get bombarded by hundreds of scammers wanting *** and as a male I don't think I approach females with a "show us your tits" attitude.. As I have often said on this site I am attracted to educated people, male and female bi, trans and all. There is only one thing worse than getting hundreds of letters and that is getting none at all, Zero, Zilch ,Nought , Nowt etc.. ❤❤❤😼
ey**** Posted January 27, 2020 Posted January 27, 2020 do you get hundreds or do you get none? I don't understand here. But, honestly, whenever you do reach out to someone be aware they'll have had a lot of idiots so take it as a time to shine (and, the sad news - you can do everything seemingly right and still not get a response... and that's sadly life)
piaggiomp3 Posted January 28, 2020 Posted January 28, 2020 I have thought about this from a submissive side . In essence when 2 people meet it is on equal terms . I hate it when i get a reply from a Mistress and she demands that i can only address her as mistress or goddess when i haven't even met her , at least have a bit of respect for each other and start a dialog and then a meeting to put the rules into place
ey**** Posted January 28, 2020 Posted January 28, 2020 I've seen a lot of split advice on that. I think it's bad to assume protocol, but you also want to make a good impression. Remember here it's *you* trying to make an impression and meet *her* - obviously if you find this off-putting then this is not someone for you - but it doesn't take much to put a little effort in. Remember, ultimately if you're presenting as a sub and that you can follow instructions and the first instruction is how she'd like to be addressed in communication - if you can't follow that it doesn't offer much confidence you can follow instructions.
Deleted Member Posted January 29, 2020 Author Posted January 29, 2020 On 1/27/2020 at 9:42 PM, ThinGuy said: In reply to Jinx "Moreover, it's a matter of respect. I'd rather not see a dick when I'm eating my cereal and perusing my messages " I don't think any sexual organ is ascetically pleasing and is there as natural selections way of procreating the species. What is aesthetically pleasing is a Pre-Raphaelite ***ting or Bronte novel etc. I am beginning to find the tones hear Diva StarZ and PrimaDonna not to mention sexist. Men get irritating PM's as well from people who can't spell or compose a sentence; let alone a paragraph. 😼 I refer to my last response. Real life interaction with genuine Dommes would change your opinion. My reason for posting on here was for reference to male subs who wish to approach a Domme. If you wish to rip apart every aspect of the original piece, go ahead & knock yourself out! Good luck with your search for a real Domme!👍
piaggiomp3 Posted January 29, 2020 Posted January 29, 2020 I have to say that after reading all the replies on the subject that i have it wrong , i will now go with no expectations of what my mistress wants because i am to be command to her desires and wants and any training to meet her wishes
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