It seems like it is both men and women on this site who see the sexual potential on the site and use it as an excuse to just be vile. Glad to see I’m not the only one. I’ll keep in mind what you said about not responding.
I didn’t *feel* ugly before I joined this site. I had pretty good luck on Read more… other apps, just no one really kinky. If finding someone kinky means I have to go through piles of creeps, I don’t know if I can hang. I’m slowly converting to just lurking and posting on the forums.

So, I’m seeing that both men and women are equally receiving cruel responses when they are polite?

That makes a lot of sense. I try to be respectful and sweet with my first message. Like I would be in person. It saddens me to see people not return respect with respect. But I guess everyone’s definition of that is different.

It honestly seem like the inflated sense of confidence that comes with being online as a woman on a dating sight, and constantly getting spammed with sex offers, has seriously destroyed what used to be a semi normal dating scene - you ask them out, you go out, you talk on the phone sometimes when Read more… you’re both home. Whatever this is actually just makes people who struggle with abandonment due to ***, like me, honestly just want to die.
I’ve never felt less attractive in my life.