I feel like I want to write something here yet I know people fail to read my sparse profile as it is so I’m not sure why I’m going to bother.
Me, I’m a simple girl who is difficult in the wrong hands. I’ve been strong for too long and honestly I want to be able to be carefree and relaxed.
The way to reach me is by intriguing my mind. I’m not impressed by how you look, what you drive, your job title or similar. That’s not to say those things are unimportant, but if you don’t capture my mind then there’s no hope of even continuing conversation.
I’ve been told I’m “lovely”, I don’t believe this at all. I’m grumpy, prickly and stubborn. However, in the right hands and in the right way I melt and can become completely malleable - you just need to know which buttons to push.
It’s difficult to quantify exactly what I am as different people and dynamics bring out different sides of me, so I’m definitely evolving in ways. That said, I am in no way Dominant, nor am I a switch. Sometimes I think it would make life easier if I were but I can’t change me I’m afraid. I’m sexually submissive with a masochistic streak that enhances my pleasure and a bit of a brat with a “make me” attitude at times. A good girl until I’m not, I need someone strong enough to deal with me and put me in my place yet also nurture me and fulfil my needy, attention wh*re side. I don’t do emotional/mental pa!n nor do I have a “little” side per se. I’m enjoying exploring myself and having an outlet for writing and my images.
I’m a lover of correct grammar (if I’ve made a mistake writing this I will be mad but feel free to correct me). If you don’t know the difference between your or you’re, their, there or they’re then please either learn (or have a jolly good reason for your ignorance) or be prepared for me to point it out. I’m not someone who dishes out what she can’t receive - I’m perfectly happy to be corrected.
I love good conversation and that which makes me think and question my opinions is most definitely welcome.
My love language (unsurprisingly) is Words of Affirmation - someone telling me they’re proud of me or well done or good girl makes my heart beat just a little faster. However, be warned, I can spot insincerity a mile off. A very close second love language is Physical Touch - this does not mean sexual touch. I am an extremely tactile person, I love to touch and be touched and I hate to feel starved of that. That said, I’ve recently come to understand that the theories of love languages are rooted in patriarchy with distinct misogynistic undercurrents. Further that whilst I have a like and enjoyment for certain aspects of what is described by the “love languages” I appreciate that these are fluid and interchangeable within any relationship based on needs at any given time.
There’s more, I’m sure, but for now I feel this will suffice.
2/2/25 an addition to the profile for those of you who wish to know more and aren’t faint of heart:
Well, I got challenged to write a new, totally honest profile and here it is. It’s a lot harder than it looks to lay yourself bare (emotionally) to the world and it definitely isn’t something I’m used to doing or necessarily comfortable with.
Many of the things I do/don’t do are done with my safety in mind. That safety relates to my physical, emotional and mental safety and my ability to be *** with someone. If you have visions of sending one or two messages then meeting up (or even transferring our chat off this platform) I’m not the girl for you. It, usually, takes me weeks to feel safe enough with someone to even give them my phone number and longer still to meet them. I understand that that doesn’t work for many people and maybe some day I shall be able to throw caution to the wind and be carefree (I highly doubt it) but today is not that day. If you can’t understand or accept the cautious side of me or try to change it then we aren’t going to work.
As you may have already worked out I’m hard work. I actually don’t mean to be but life has taught me one too many lessons and now I don’t know how else to be. I have huge walls and I try to appear like an ice queen. Unfortunately what I’m hiding is a hopeless romantic who desperately wants to be loved and, stupidly, still believes in happy ever after. And yes, I appreciate this is a kink site however for me kink/play/BDSM whatever you want to call it doesn’t work without a (emotional) relationship underpinning it.
I have the greatest affinity to the labels “submissive”, “brat”, “good girl” and “masochist” but they don’t, nor should they, define me. I am me and what I am with one person will be different to what I am with another. I bounce off other people and because of that I am, in a sense, “evolving”.
I do know that when someone really, truly sees me they are often surprised by who I am in comparison to what I present. For example whilst I can be a brat it isn’t the “real” me, it’s more of a defensive safety mechanism to keep people at arms length. What I yearn for is someone that I can tease, flirt with, have fun with and who is strong enough and self assured enough to understand me and help me to be the good girl I crave being. A person who can listen to me and talk with me about anything and everything, a person who wants and needs me, who can praise me when I deserve it and discipline me when I need it. Someone who is honest and open and authentic and who I can trust with my mind, body and soul and who I respect, that is absolutely the key to “earning” my submission.
If I haven’t scared you off as yet perhaps the following will - I am needy and I thrive on attention. If I like you I will want your time. I will want to bounce messages back and forth with you throughout the day and I’ll really want you to want that too. I will expect good morning and good night messages not because I’ve asked for them but because I’m the first and last thing you think about. I will want to please you but, I know myself well enough to know that I’ll also push you and “test” you to see if you can keep me in check.
What do you get in return for all my wants and needs? Me of course, what more could you want 😝 Seriously though, you get a girl who is open to many things, who will want the best for you and who will do whatever she can to please you. You will get someone who wants to help you be the absolute best version of yourself, who will always have your back and fight your corner. Sexually, kink and play wise - well, that’s private for now…
I suspect my inbox will be a barren wasteland after this but perhaps the right person will see this for what it is and it could be the beginning of an amazing journey.
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