Kinky Date BDSM contacts in Oakland

I'm 6'1"
Around 265lbs
I'm 35
I am in the East Bay and can either host here (once we get to know eachother) or get a room closer to you so you don't feel uncomfortable.
I'm looking to have a fun and growing bond with someone, not just a hole to stick my dick in, I have toys for that.
I'm clean std/sti wise, I get tested after any new partner not because I don't trust them persay but I want to be extra careful, no sex is worth a lifetime disease or anything.
I love to please and think that communication is essential to any relationship, especially a sexual one. Yes, you can tell some things from body language and sounds, but actually talking about interests and likes is far better.
I have a picture of me on my profile, granted I'm wearing a mask but I'd be happy to send you a different one if we want to chat more.
Fantasies are a bit hard to narrow down, my tastes are constantly changing and I try to let myself explore each of my interests when appropriate.
I know I said I'm a big giver, but even more specifically, I love to eat pussy. I know a lot of guys get weirded out or are greedy about their pleasure, but that isn't me. I do enjoy receiving of course, but it's almost impossible me make me cum orally, I'm far more stimulated by making my partner receive pleasure.
As far as scheduling, I can generally make time whenever I want, both planned ahead and typically random spur of the moment type.
I'm totally down to build a friendship/connection and even just watch movies and spend time together, it can't all be sex.