BDSM Dating in Santa Clara

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Heyo, I'm Chris! I'm new to the community and just starting to dip my toes into being part of it, but I've been wanting to give this stuff a shot for a few years. I'm 23-year-old California guy (Bay Area) with a plethora of odd skills, too many hobbies, a great sense of humor, an absurd range of interests (both kinky and mundane), and really just an all-around alright guy.

I wanna be shown the ropes. Explore things, experiment, have some fun and maybe share a few laughs— really just a chance to indulge in the kinkier side of life without getting degraded or beaten into submission. Lending a hand and serving as a dedicated servant. A simple evening of being bound, gagged, and used as a body pillow/cuddle toy while we indulge in something as mundane as watching a movie or show together. Drawn-out sessions in the dungeon— I'm willing to explore it all! We can pursue it as casually or intense as we want. I'm after the connection and fun, not sexual pursuits and chasing after thrills.

Looking for long-term, monogamous, and in-person. I'd prefer getting to know each other a bit first instead of get straight into it. Can't host.

Heyo, I'm Chris! I'm new to the community and just starting to dip my toes into being part of it, but I've been wanting to give this stuff a shot for a few years. I'm 23-year-old California guy (Bay Area) with a plethora of odd skills, too many hobbies, a great sense of humor, an absurd range of interests (both kinky and mundane), and really just an all-around alright guy.

I wanna be shown the ropes. Explore things, experiment, have some fun and maybe share a few laughs— really just a chance to indulge in the kinkier side of life without getting degraded or beaten into submission. Lending a hand and serving as a dedicated servant. A simple evening of being bound, gagged, and used as a body pillow/cuddle toy while we indulge in something as mundane as watching a movie or show together. Drawn-out sessions in the dungeon— I'm willing to explore it all! We can pursue it as casually or intense as we want. I'm after the connection and fun, not sexual pursuits and chasing after thrills.

If given the chance, you'll have a goofy, sweet sub on your hands who'll try to make your day better however he can, memorize your likes and dislikes, shower you with affection whenever you want or need it, and do his best to make you happy.

Looking for long-term and monogamous. I'd prefer getting to know each other first, preferably as friends or dating instead of get straight into it. Can't host, as I live with my family due to financial issues.

I want to get gangbangef

Looking for a fun and playful friend to meet and get to know. Hopefully will connect with us and we can play together.

Just want a friend maybe more if we hit it up

Meet up go for a drive and get some food or something.

My intentions are not important. Your behavior is. I'm a gentleman and a "Nice Guy". I will finish last....you finish 1st, 2nd, a soft 3rd then.........a hard 4th, it goes on till you've lost count.

Hmmm.. need more here. I guess just Don't be shy. I don't bite.. too hard unless you like it like that

I'm looking for a baddie that likes to have fun and knows what she wants. No silly games just a genuine dimepiece with a positive personality. Bonus points if u like to party and dance and your in the SF bayarea. Hmu

I'm looking for a fun luving lady uninhibited by societal norms and willing to try new experiences and pleasures. Also someone That enjoys a large thick BBC working to bring you the most blissful waves of sustained orgasims for hours of pleasure.

I’ve got an idea for a date…

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You’re looking for a trainer and somehow found me. We’ve agreed for you to meet me at my apartment so we can take your measurements and discuss how we will work together to get you fit for summer.

You show up to my apartment and we exchange pleasantries. I tell you that I will take measurements of different areas of your body and that you will need to be in just your bra and panties. You’re a little nervous, but you agree.

You’re now semi-naked in my bedroom. I come and tell you we need to measure your breasts and as I reach around, I not so subtly brush my finger across your nipple. You’re not quite sure if I did on purpose or by accident…

I continue getting measurements of your arms, stomach and hips. I tell you I need to measure each leg. As I wrap the measuring tape around the first leg, my hand brushes up against your pussy. You’re a little uncomfortable, but don’t want to make it a big deal because you’re not sure if it was an accident or intentional.

I now measure your second leg, and this time, I’m a little more bold and slip my finger inside of your panties and actually feel your pussy. That’s it, you pull away from me and say this was a mistake and you want me to stop.

You don’t even know how it happened…

My hand over your mouth as I push you on the bed. The weight of me keeping you pinned as my other hand rips your panties down. You’re eyes wide as you’re facing one of your biggest ***s.

I tell you that you it will be over soon. I slap you so that you know who’s in control and tell you that it will only be worse if you scream. I tell you that I will remove my hand from your mouth if you promise not to scream. You nod your head and I remove my hand…

You start begging me not to do this and that if I let you leave you won’t tell anyone. I have a fitness strap that I use to bind your hands together. I lift your bra so that I can see your breasts. Your nipples are perfect. Your body shudders as you feel my hand against your bare leg.

I push two fingers inside of you and play with your pussy for a few minutes. You can’t help but feel a little slutty since you’re so wet, but you just want it end.

I slide my shorts off and you see my cock. I spread your legs apart and you’re begging for me not to fuck you. You surprise yourself with the moan you let out as I enter you…

I fuck you slowly to stretch you out a bit. After a few minutes, you try one last time to fight me off. I’M SO MUCH STRONGER THAN YOU. I slap you again and tell you how much you fucked up now.

I start breaking you. I’m so rough. My hands around your throat as you’re taking every inch of my cock deep inside of you.

I use you in different positions for what seems like an hour. I finally cum and you’re battered, bruised, tired, disheveled and weak…

How was your first cardio session?

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Of course, this would need to be a consensual and we would need to connect via video to verify. Boundaries need to be discussed and a safe word needs to be established upfront. Obviously, this would take place at my apartment. I value my peace, please don’t bring drama to my doorstep.


Me: White/Black/Asian. I’m 5’11, muscular and actually a trainer. I’m a normal guy with a kinky alter ego. I’m a sucker for a submissive girl who’s down to explore her inhibitions. I’m clean and always smell good. I’m kind, witty, and charming.

I am an attentive lover. I want you to feel safe with me and the sub-spaces we consensually agree to explore. I know when and how to context switch.

You: Submissive. Kinky. Sexy. Open-minded. Charismatic. HWP. Non-toxic.

You’re my new neighbor. You just moved in and don’t have your utilities set up yet. You have a job interview over Zoom in a few minutes and really need a WiFi connection for an hour or so. You’re dressed up, looking GORGEOUS, but smart, hoping to land this new role.

It’s mid-morning, You are fairly certain that I work from home since you’ve seen me during the daytime. You decide to take a chance and see if I’ll be kind enough to let you use my WiFi.

You knock and I open my door. You introduce yourself as my neighbor and explain your situation. I totally get it and say it wouldn’t be a problem. The only thing is that I also have a meeting at the same time, so you’d have to make your call from my BEDROOM so that I could have my living room for my meeting. You’re just HAPPY to have a WiFi connection so you can do your interview. You NEED this job so badly.

I show you my place and my bedroom and tell you that you can get set up and I’ll grab the password from my desk in the living room.

I come back into the bedroom, but you notice I’ve close the door behind me. The look on your face as my hand goes over your mouth to MUFFLE the scream…🥵

I slap you and tell you that this will all be over if you don’t fight it. I put my hand around your throat and pull your panties down. My fingers are inside of you. You’re begging me to stop. YOU keep pleading that you won’t say anything. You don’t understand why you’re so WET though.

I grab my yoga strap and BOUND your hands. The strap is long enough for me to also wrap it around your NECK. I give it a good squeeze and you know there’s no escape. All you can do BEG me to stop and hope that its’s over soon.

I pull my dick out and as I am about to fuck you, you start fighting back, trying to push me away, but I’m so much STRONGER than you. I tighten the grip on the strap and you feel it squeeze a little tighter around your neck.

I push my dick inside of you and you’re BEGGING me not to do this. You’re keep saying “please stop” and that you won’t tell anyone. But I’m DOMINATING you. There isn’t a way out of this.

I take my time using your body in different positions. Every time you try to push me away I *** myself deeper into you and slap you to make sure you understand who’s in control. You know you’re MY cumslut now.

I’m close to cum’n so I use your throat and have you gagging on my cock until I cum all over your face.

You can do your interview now…

Sound fun? I work from home. We can DEFINITELY make this a reality.

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Me: Just shy of 6ft. Black/Asian. I work out regularly. I’m an attentive lover and know how to make my partner feel safe with me and the subspace we enter. I’m kind, witty, charming and interesting. I always smell good.

You: HWP. Submissive. Kinky. Sexy. Open-minded. Charismatic. Sane.

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My DM’s are open. I will want to video verify and have a conversation before I invite you to my home. Let’s establish our boundaries and safe word before meeting.

You’d be my DoorDasher. Wearing a short skirt. Thong panties showing your bare ass.

I ask you to come inside and put my order on the entertainment center. As you do, you drop your pen and as you bend over and I can see your panties. You notice and get shy and say sorry. I respond that it’s not a problem and I get ready to hand you a tip.

Before I hand you a $20, I start coming on to you and ask you out for a date, but you say it’s not a good idea and that you should leave. I say you don’t have to and reach out to touch you. You push me away, but I come forward. I grab you and start rubbing my hands between your thighs. You push me away, but I’m stronger.

I cover your mouth as I drag you into my bedroom, sure, you’re fighting back a little, but again, I’m strong. Your skirt is now around your waist. You keep pushing my hands away but eventually my fingers are inside of you. You’re so wet.

You know there’s no escape now. You’re fighting back trying to stop me, begging me not to do this, but as my dick slips inside you know you don’t want it to stop. Your eyes roll into the back of your head and you beg me to fuck you again. And again.

Then, I treat you like a queen and make sure you that what just happened was us being completely lost in the moment. I worship your body and make you feel and know that you’re in a safe space.

Sound fun?

Me: Tall. Brown. Fit. Charming. Witty. Sane.

I’ve been extremely fortunate to have met a number of women over this past year. Some have been one night stands, a few turned into multiple dates, and others had turned into something much more.

These experiences have shown me what I’m really looking for and I’m hoping to find someone who’s desire resonates in kind.

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First and foremost, I’m divorced and I’m a dad. Me and my kids are a package deal. I don’t have them full time, but I’m always DAD and I give them my attention and affection in abundance when they need me. They don’t need a mom, the one they have is kinda awesome. Just be a dope ass friend to them, they will appreciate it. If this is a dealbreaker, thanks for stopping by.

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Ok, with that out the way…

I am manifesting a relationship built on open communication, honesty, love, kindness, humility, passion, lust, and shared kinks.

I had someone who I wanted to build this with, unfortunately, things moved so quickly and I went about it the wrong way and things fell apart. Hoping to do it better this time around. I want us to take our time and build a bond where we KNOW we have found our safe space.

I love my life, my career, and social circle. I’m going to find someone who complements my life and I will do the same for her.

I’m not hard to please. Send me music, memes, food and nudes. Come to the gym with me. Let’s be that hot couple that everyone notices. Smell nice, I do. Give me your time, attention and affection. I’ll treat you like a QUEEN and will make sure you are seen, heard, understood, and respected.

As for our sexual compatibility, I’m envisioning a relationship that STARTS with us exploring, acclimating, and elevating our sensuality together, exclusively. Once we are both mutually ready, we would invite other couples, or an agreed upon third, and eventually, could lead to encouraged solo play. I don’t want you to be a whore, I want you to be MY whore. I would want you to experience the touch of others, knowing that YOU know YOU belong to ME and they are just an instrument WE use to bring you pleasure, just as YOU would want that for ME. We lust and share OURSELVES with others, but we only LOVE on each other…

I’m in no rush. I plan to be very selective as I want this to be a long term thing. I WON’T settle for someone unless she is patient, charismatic, sexy, open-minded, kinky, and submissive.

I hope this has caught your interest. I can’t wait to meet you.

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Me: Asian/Black, 5’11”, Fit, Tatted, Kinky.
I’m witty, charismatic, and kind.

You: 24-36, sexy, submissive, HWP.

I live alone in San Jose.

*I’m not actually looking for a wife. We don’t need a contract that ***s us to be together. I will CHOOSE you daily. Please reciprocate.

Let's be naughty and nasty

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Straight athletic hung vers mixed male looking for hung ts woman that needs a Tru friend with the possibility of evolving to more later. . In or around bay area , preferably sj. Or is able to host for meetup. Very kinky sexual saggitarrius for a freak like me....

Hi, athletic couple looking for that special guy to meet and greet, go from there.
Wife is center of attention but comfortable with male contact.
Looking for athletic, less body hair preferably. Can carry a conversation.
Looking for real people. We are.
Waiting to hear from you. Cheers

52M Caucasian submissive/switch, 5'9", 182lbs, can send pictures privately, just ask me for one

Desires and Fantasies
Dirty talking, roleplay, sapiosexual, verbal ***, femdom, phone/cam/texting and lots more if we meet up... If you like degrading or edging that's interesting. Curious about: wrestling.

We are looking for a guy that knows how to treat a lady in the bedroom.
I like the physicality of the situation and would touch both your physique’s while you played. A plus if you touch back. And watch.
We are looking for confident straight. What do you think?

Looking for something long term and really want to be held at night and want someone
To love during the day hit me up ladieZ San Jose California

I just want a woman to hold me care for me and hug me and one day when we both ready make sweet passionate love when we both ready and when we reach that step i need to let go of the past and move on with my future and let go and let God and be at peace but i would like to find the right fellow pot head woman for me im 38 im a kindhearted decent person that just wants to be loved for whom he is a kind hearted person