Hi. I am a straight, single, financially-stable, well-educated sub with only two years of experience, but a lifetime of fantasizing about it. I am new to the area and looking to make friends and have fun. I was (still am) a single mom and worked my ass off caring for others for decades and now I want to take time and effort to focus on myself which includes finding out what I like and enjoy. I recently "cleaned house" and ended some toxic relationships, so I am looking to make some non toxic friends. Eventually (but not too far in the future) I'd like to pursue a relationship with a significant other. I think this person would be close to my own age, but nothing definite. In my two years, I have mostly learned what I'm NOT looking for. It's not a Daddy or pleasure Dom, although I do want to be cared for and for him to give me pleasure. It's not a sadist, but there are times I want to be punished and feel his physical dominance of me. I want a man who is financially-stable and intelligent and who expects to put his time and creativity into developing a sexual power exchange relationship with me. And expects the same from me. I am drawn to (and I fantasize about) a Dom who I want to please bc I have an attachment to him and he is very caring of me. So there is the service sub side to me. He has a long, stressful day at work. I want to help him destress by either giving him what he asks or coming up with my own ways to please him. He enjoys and appreciates my attempts, especially that I put time and effort into getting to know his wants and needs and anticipating them. Maybe his idea of relaxation is vegging out in front of the tv for an hour or so. Then I might have his favorite dinner and a cold beer ready on a tv tray when he gets home. Massaging his neck when he's finished eating. Or maybe he wants to fuck me hard to release tension. Then I'm naked on the bed on all fours. It just depends. The key is that he appreciates what I do or try to do and likes to see how my imagination works. My caring of others is like an art form for me. I get to use my creativity. I won't always get it right. Especially in the beginning. I have to learn you. And I have to be taught what you like and how you like it. How to dress. How to act in different situations. How to perform. But he also enjoys being challenged by me. Keeping me in my place. I like to push the boundaries. Trying to get a reaction to bring forth his dominant side. So there is the bratty sub side of me. He may watch me flirt with a guy at a bar trying to get him jealous. But then assert his dominance by grabbing the back of my hair and kissing me. Or calling my bluff and telling me to go talk to the guy. This is where I want my Dom to use his imagination. Find or create ways for me to submit my power to him. It's not something you would beat out of me (although submitting to spankings, etc is a way to exchange power). I love to feel physically dominated. Pressed against a wall, throat grabbed, picked up, cnc. I have a bdsm questionairre which is used for setting limits. But I think it's also a good tool for exploring interests and to get a conversation started. I think D/s is about exploration- physical and mental. It's a relationship that grows. If you thought reading this profile was too much work, then you are not for me. Bonus points for pickleball players and 420 friendlies.

Hi. I am a straight, single, financially-stable, well-educated sub with only two years of experience, but a lifetime of fantasizing about it. I am new to the area and looking to make friends and have fun. I was (still am) a single mom and worked my ass off caring for others for decades and now I want to take time and effort to focus on myself which includes finding out what I like and enjoy. I recently "cleaned house" and ended some toxic relationships, so I am looking to make some non toxic friends. Eventually (but not too far in the future) I'd like to pursue a relationship with a significant other. I think this person would be close to my own age, but nothing definite. In my two years, I have mostly learned what I'm NOT looking for. It's not a Daddy or pleasure Dom, although I do want to be cared for and for him to give me pleasure. It's not a sadist, but there are times I want to be punished and feel his physical dominance of me. I want a man who is financially-stable and intelligent and who expects to put his time and creativity into developing a sexual power exchange relationship with me. And expects the same from me. I am drawn to (and I fantasize about) a Dom who I want to please bc I have an attachment to him and he is very caring of me. So there is the service sub side to me. He has a long, stressful day at work. I want to help him destress by either giving him what he asks or coming up with my own ways to please him. He enjoys and appreciates my attempts, especially that I put time and effort into getting to know his wants and needs and anticipating them. Maybe his idea of relaxation is vegging out in front of the tv for an hour or so. Then I might have his favorite dinner and a cold beer ready on a tv tray when he gets home. Massaging his neck when he's finished eating. Or maybe he wants to fuck me hard to release tension. Then I'm naked on the bed on all fours. It just depends. The key is that he appreciates what I do or try to do and likes to see how my imagination works. My caring of others is like an art form for me. I get to use my creativity. I won't always get it right. Especially in the beginning. I have to learn you. And I have to be taught what you like and how you like it. How to dress. How to act in different situations. How to perform. But he also enjoys being challenged by me. Keeping me in my place. I like to push the boundaries. Trying to get a reaction to bring forth his dominant side. So there is the bratty sub side of me. He may watch me flirt with a guy at a bar trying to get him jealous. But then assert his dominance by grabbing the back of my hair and kissing me. Or calling my bluff and telling me to go talk to the guy. This is where I want my Dom to use his imagination. Find or create ways for me to submit my power to him. It's not something you would beat out of me (although submitting to spankings, etc is a way to exchange power). I love to feel physically dominated. Pressed against a wall, throat grabbed, picked up, cnc. I have a bdsm questionairre which is used for setting limits. But I think it's also a good tool for exploring interests and to get a conversation started. I think D/s is about exploration- physical and mental. It's a relationship that grows. If you thought reading this profile was too much work, then you are not for me. Bonus points for pickleball players and 420 friendlies.