I'm looking firstly for a connection, to maybe find someone on my wavelength, and to then see what develops from there. Having a relationship with the person as a human being, feeling as if I would want that person in my life regardless of whether sex or kink of any kind are on the table is always first and foremost for me.
The dating scene is tricky enough, but when kink and certain kind of dynamic is also important for you in a relationship, it becomes trickier. I'm here so that I can be as transparent as possible about my desires, instead of trying to encode it on the usual dating sites to avoid scandalized reactions, hoping I get lucky and someone has actuallly decided to read the profile carefully, knows what it means, and is interested.
Eventually I hope to find a D/s relationship which includes elements of power exchange, to be decided depending on what we both want and need, of course, since every situation is different. I am not looking for the kind of TPE in which I follow high protocol, am at every moment of my day expected to drop what I'm doing immediately to answer the dominant, as I have my own goals, passions, other relationships and daily responsibilities; as overwhelming as those can be sometimes (such is life), I highly value them, so they are non-negotiable.
I've listed "masochist" as one of my roles. I've found it fascinating, diving into the various ways people relate with that word. For me specifically, that term applies out of a deep desire for submission; that is, I may not necessarily enjoy all ***/highly uncomfortable sensations, but I do enjoy some types of impact play, wax play, etc, to a certain point...after which, it's a testament to my desire to submit which would keep the play going.
Most sensations related to *** play I will say I'm into trying first with a partner are those I've tried by myself, to test what they feel like, out of curiosity. I have not yet played/tried *** play or D/s dynamics with a partner. In that way, you could say I'm a newcomer to the scene, though I've gone to a few events, and done quite a bit of research, to have an idea of what I am/am not looking for.
I'd like to mention also that I have no interest in being in a polyamorous relationship, and that I am not looking for casual physical encounters, including sex or play scenes with someone I don't know well.
If you've read this far...thank you! What follows is a general description of non-BDSM related hobbies and interests...what I like to do with my time outside of kink.
I like to get coffee and walk around town aimlessly, talking about everything or nothing. I like taking long walks in nature, and have a passion for wildlife and nature conservation.
I like sitting around drinking said coffee or tea and reading, especially in the company of a good companion. I think some of the best moments are spent sitting in silence with someone you're comfortable with. Sometimes just enjoying time together is enough.
I like all kinds of music with the exception of modern/pop country, though my favorites at the moment are opera, classical, and melodic rock/metal.
I like learning languages and the culture and history of the country, and I hope to travel around Europe someday. I've been out of the country only once, so far. I speak a little French, and less Japanese, though I'm much better at reading them than speaking.
I also like learning physics, about spacetime and gravity in particular.
I'm not religious, myself, and have some complaints about many organized religions, however I enjoy discussing world religions and their ideas, as I think the basic messages of many doctrines have a lot in common, and particular messages from each can be learned from or appreciated even if you aren't a member of that religion.
I have a full time job, in addition to currently working on a Bachelors degree. I'm a returning student after dropping out years ago.
Lastly, but certainly not...leastly? That's not a word....we're going with it anyway; I have a dog, so if you are allergic or uncomfortable with them, we may not be a good fit for one another.
