Read this first: If you want to chat but can’t send messages, like a photo or send a crush—I’ll respond. I don’t ghost. You’ll always get a reply, even if it’s a polite no. Fair? Fair. Now, let’s save us both some time:
1. If you can’t be bothered to write a decent bio, I can’t be bothered to respond.
2. If you message with nothing but “hey,” expect silence.
3. If your first question is about my body, what I “allow,” or what I “offer,” keep it moving.
4. If you can’t handle a woman who knows exactly what she wants, don’t waste your time.
5. If your idea of dominance is entitlement, we have nothing to talk about.
6. If you’re here fishing for spicy photos, don’t bother—my private gallery is empty, and I like it that way.
I protect my energy. Approach accordingly.
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I’m demisexual. If you don’t know what that means (even after Googling), we won’t be a good fit. Connection, energy, and trust are everything for me. I don’t rush intimacy, and I don’t fake interest. When it’s there, you’ll know.
I’m a coparent of toddler twins, and my time is valuable. I’m intentional with how I engage and who I give my energy to. I’m actively dating, learning what feels right, and deciding where to invest. I don’t rush, but I move with purpose.
I crave a partner who is confident, assertive, and emotionally available—someone who sees me, values me, and prioritizes me without making me fight for it. Years of inconsistency and poor communication shaped my needs. I require security, attention, and depth, but I also need space to be my own person, and I offer the same in return. Monogamy is my foundation, but I’m open to polyamory if it’s built on respect, intention, and strong foundations. If I explore that, I want to do it with my person, not as an afterthought or a third-wheel addition. I’m not here to be someone’s experiment.
I show up differently in my dominant and submissive energies, and I expect a partner who understands and appreciates both. With a dominant partner, I am naturally submissive—playful, deeply responsive, and eager to please, but I am still a brat. If you don’t enjoy that dynamic, we won’t work. With submissive partners, I tend to take the lead—I enjoy guiding, teasing, and creating a safe space for mutual exploration. It’s not about gender for me, it’s about energy. And I want a relationship where kink isn’t an afterthought but an integral, evolving part of how we connect.
I am not here for ONs, FWB, or casual play. I want a committed partner who loves exploring kink within the depth of an actual relationship. Someone who understands that power exchange is about trust, not just play. If you only see kink as a list of activities to check off, we are not aligned.
I am a happy, fat, Black woman who moves through the world with confidence and softness in equal measure. My size has never stopped me from doing anything I want, and it never will. I love feeling desired, cherished, and deeply known. If you have experience with or are genuinely attracted to fat Black women, great. If you just see me as a fetish, keep scrolling.
I hate hiking and Taylor Swift. I love deep conversation, well-made cocktails, late-night drives, and food adventures. I am open, curious, and always learning. If you’re intentional, direct, and know what you want, let’s talk.
Couples can reach out, but I’m not here to fix marriages. I’ll only consider a dynamic where there’s stability, honesty, and years of experience. I am no one’s unicorn.
Want to build something real? Make a move.
