Who am I?
I've been a Domme since I was 13, though I can trace some dominant urges well before then. I've never been in a vanilla relationship, and I collared my first boyfriend around 14. I don't believe having this much experience makes me in anyway superior to those who are new or those who are switches, but that's just my background. Dominance is a very real and important thing to me, and I enjoy feeling powerful. You’ll probably get a better understanding of who I am as you read on.
Style and Philosophy
My style is that of mental domination. I push and flaunt my dominant personality in both subtle and obvious ways. I like to explore what it really means to control and own somebody, and what it means to be in control. In general I like rougher play, though I'm really into a lot of things. I don't look to totally control a submissive's life, I just like being in control when they are in my presence. My favorite thing is to just feel like the puppet master, pulling the strings, and getting the sub to feel exactly as I want them to feel.
For that reason, I can be a little intense for some people, which I respect. Though I also respect that this style will take some warming up to. Just because I call myself a Domme does not mean I am entitled to anyone's submission. Trust has to be earned both ways, and I am more than willing to work with a potential submissive to figure out pacing, boundaries, etc. One of the most satisfying parts of being Domme to me is watching a sub feel like they can be comfortable and themselves around me, so I work to try to be as genuine as possible so the sub can feel comfortable around me.
What I Look For
In-Person: In-person id my priority. I can host, I am open to owning an in-person submissive, I am also open to more casual interactions as long as you have something of value to offer me. I take both privacy and safety very seriously, for my own sake and my partner’s sake. Expect me to want to meet you in a more public setting at least once for our initial meetings. I have a huge collection of toys, so don’t worry if you are limited.
Online: I'm not very interested in purely online dynamics these days. For online, I’m not interested in casual play partners, just potential, longer-term submissves. Much like I said earlier, I don’t have a set list of expectations for how this goes. Some submissives I talk to mostly over video, some are just voice, while others mostly talk through text.
What I will say though, is you would likely have to fall into one of the 2 categories: Have access to/ be able to use toys to send me pictures/ videos/ live feed of them in action, or, be good at story/ text based roleplay. If you don’t currently own toys I’m willing to work with you, but this needs be something that is possible. If it is not, I’m willing to train in how to roleplay, but I’m very strict/ picky when it comes to the quality of this. It’s not something just anyone can do. Another element that seems to be important to be is being able to see the submissvie’s face; this is not a requirement at all times, and I understand that people rightfully have privacy concerns. However, it is needed to help me feel more connected to the submissives. If you have concerns about this, we can talk about it.
Romance: I am currently single and am interested in being in a FLR (female lead relationship). Finding an FLR is my main goal. I'm also open to both in-person and long-distance relationships, with LD having some possbile conditions that I will explain if someone is interested. This is obviously not going to be the case for most of the people I interact with, but if you are interested, here is some info. For a romantic relationship, there is obviously more partnership and cooperation involved, however, I still desire to be the lead in the relationship by making most decisions, being in control, and having control over my partner.
In terms of what this means exactly, that would have to be worked on on an individual level. Not every element is practical with every person. I have both a very sadistic side, and a romantic, caring side. I like these to exist in a balance. I also both enjoy having a partner I can control, and a partner that has their own life outside of me, so I would like these to exist in balance as well.
Thank you for making it this far, and I surely hope you read the whole thing~
