I like getting to know people, but I LOVE being comfortable.
Are you thoughtful? Are you caring? Are you kind? Are you trustworthy, honest and true? Are you legitimately safe to be *** around?
Are you curious? Are you reciprocal? Do you truly want to share pleasure with the people you play with? The world and people are sometimes really hard. Can you be soft?
For me, anything else is secondary and tertiary to feeling safe and open around each other.