WHY I AM ON FETISH
I was celibate for 7 years. That ended a year ago when I entered a vanilla relationship. That ended and I've been on a bit of self-discovery since the beginning of the year because I felt there's more that I need to explore and I realized I need aspects of kink to feel complete both in and out of the bedroom. I feel incredibly fortunate to have a Kink mentor who has been encouraging to explore and figure out what makes me tick. He knows I am looking for something more substantial and wants that for me. He also knows what a special human I am and thinks whoever I end up with will be very lucky. (He says it will be my kinky prince charming lol).
WHAT I AM LOOKING FOR
I am looking for someone interested in a RELATIONSHIP (Not FWB, play partner, or a situationship. You are not the exception to this. If you are, I will reach out to you, not the other way around). I am sensual and attentive, need stimulating conversation, and am about mutual respect and trust. I am a true Switch. I am very comfortable in both sub and domme roles and believe that experience makes me a better partner. I am strong and a boss when I need to be but can turn that off and be the soft, attentive, loving sub who wants to please her partner. I want someone who is an Alpha in public, chivalrous, a gentleman and treats me like the queen that I am. I am not interested in a female-led relationship. I am looking for a partner who will lead and is okay with me doing the same sometimes. I hope to find my person in the lifestyle as I have realized it is important to me. I am also someone who has NEVER cheated on a partner. I am serious about meeting in person and phone/video chatting and looking for the same.
ABOUT ME
I'm a [sapiosexual](https://www.verywellmind.com/what-does-it-mean-to-be-sapiosexual-5190425) and [GGG](https://www.wikihow.com/Ggg-Meaning#:~:text=Things%20You%20Should%20Know,by%20the%20journalist%20Dan%20Savage.), so a mind connection is important to me. I don't look anywhere near my age 56 (more like my early 40s), I'm in the gym regularly for my physical and mental health. I'm 5'2" and currently a size 10 and I am natural everywhere... there are no fillers here!
Vanilla Interests include stimulating conversations, reading, travel, fitness, music, dancing, the arts, movies, exploring different cuisines and cultures.....etc. I love all different kinds of music, but not fond of s***d metal and twangy country. I prefer psychological thrillers over horror. Love a good comedy and rom-com, along with the classics. Some favorite movies include The Shining, It, Breakfast at Tiffanys, The Notebook, Planes, Trains, and Automobiles, Rebel Without a Cause, and Notting Hill. I love true crime shows; I find them absolutely fascinating. You might find me out dancing, singing karaoke, at an arcade, or chilling with friends. I'm also cool staying home, reading, chilling, and cooking. I am an outgoing introvert, and need alone time to recharge my batteries.
I am in North NJ. I am interested in meeting people in North NJ, South Westchester County, Rockland County NY, and NYC. If you are unwilling or unprepared to video chat and arrange to meet in person within a week of steady communication, move on. I'm not interested in being some virtual emotional support *** or be the fix to your loneliness. Get a therapist and work on yourself :-) Also, if you think that leading with sex will get my attention, you are sadly mistaken. I am interested in WHO YOU ARE AND WHY YOU ARE INTERESTED IN GETTING TO KNOW WHO I AM. This being a kink site is irreverent....I still expect to be approached and treated with respect. The benefit of being here is that you don't have to guess if we are into the same things behind closed doors. I don't fuck and figure out the other stuff later, so if that is what you are expecting, please move on.....
Type of Sexual dynamic I will consider:
* [Stag](https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Stag%20and%20Vixen)
* [Switch](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Top,_bottom,_switch)
* [Sensualists](https://www.kinkly.com/definition/sensualist/)
* [Soft Dom ](https://www.kinkly.com/definition/sensualist/)
* [Daddy Dom ](https://sexualityandthecity.com/2017/11/19/philosophy-of-daddy-doms/comment-page-1/)
* Exploring/Fluctuating
* [Sissy](https://www.kinkly.com/definition/sissy-training/)
* Femdom - will consider if you are a switch and this dynamic is just part of you.
* [Cuck](https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=cuckhold) - this will depend on the extent of the dynamic. I am not interested in anyone who is truly bi and is **hiding** behind this dynamic.
**I will add that just because I am willing to consider Cuck and Stag doesn't mean that I am not fine with complete monogamy.**
WARNING
Please don't think my purpose of being here is to provide you with pictures, videos for you to jerk off to, endless communication to get off to, etc. I am about IRL meeting. If you are looking to take communication off of this platform, be prepared to meet in person in the very near future and a video chat along with a picture that is YOU (This is about MY SAFETY). If your profile and about are barren and location is vague, please be prepared to write a very descriptive message as to why you are reaching out (none of this "how are you", "hello", "hey sexy", or "wassup" bullshit ) and your location or you probably won't receive a response from me. Friend or gallery requests without prior communication will also be ignored. Not being respectful and playing games will get you blocked :-)
You DO NOT have permission to use any of my profile, information, pictures, or other material posted on this site or any of its associated sites in any form or forum (this also includes, but is not limited to, advertisements, studies, or projects of any kind). If you do so, I will consider it a *** of my privacy and will pursue legal action against you.
== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
93% Voyeur
93% Switch
85% Exhibitionist
82% Experimentalist
76% Rigger
72% Rope bunny
71% Submissive
68% Dominant
68% Non-monogamist
59% Vanilla
57% Brat
57% Brat tamer
44% Master/Mistress
27% Primal (Prey)
25% Daddy/Mommy
25% Slave
20% Degrader
20% Owner
17% Sadist
16% Masochist
15% Ageplayer
8% Primal (Hunter)
4% Pet
0% Degradee
0% Boy/Girl
