Looking for a dom age 32-45 to pursue a relationship with. Please do not message me if you are under 30. I have experience in BDSM, but this is the first time I'm pursuing a long-term relationship of this manner. I'm not looking for a long-term relationship exclusively, but ultimately that is something I hope to find with the right person down the line. There's no rush, however. Ideally, my dom would be interested in sharing me with other men (mmf threesomes or gangbang). Let me know if this is of interest. It's not necessary but preferred as it feeds into my *** kink.
I'm recently getting out of a 10 year relationship and realizing that I need more kink in my life than I was having prior. I've been split from my ex since January, and just got my own place. However we are still close friends and hang out often, which I would like to not be an issue for future partners.
My kinks include the following:
- Extensive flirting and teasing
- ***, ***
- Being talked down to and insulted (called a whore/slut/bitch/etc.
- Call and response *** (example-- D: "Are you a whore? Tell me you're my whore". S: "...yes". D: "Yes what?" S: "I'm a whore". D: "Who's whore?" S: "I'm your whore". D: "What?? I can't hear you". S: "I'M YOUR WHORE".)
- Intimidation-- Being yelled at, getting in my face to try to intimidate me, making me afraid turns me on
- Using honorifics like "Sir" or "Master" (but no "daddy", please)
- Spankings, especially over the knee and with a belt
- Face slapping
- Hair pulling
- CNC (i.e. *** play), chasing, predator/prey, and everything that goes with it
- Being pinned down/tied up
- Punishments for not doing what I'm told and for not doing it fast enough. I like the *** of consequences.
- Bratting: I identify as a brat, which means I will test you. Ultimately I want to be put in my place and for you to show me that you're stronger and can overpower my brattiness and make me do whatever you want me to.
- Deep throating until I'm fighting you off
- Demands and commands
- Safe choking (no real choking as it's extremely dangerous and I like being alive)
- Finger fucking, especially fast and deep until I'm screaming for more
I'm also into the following, though I know it's not for everyone:
- "Hot-wife"ing (being shared or ***d to fuck other men or in front of other men (with my dom's enthusiastic consent and participation of course))
- Gangbang (I'm actually putting together a small GB group of people I trust. I'd ideally love to find a dom who is interested in this.)
I am looking for a man who's ideally both a dom and a feminist (but let's keep that for real life and not for the bedroom, lol). Someone who wants to degrade me but can also be respectful of women as a whole. Must be pro-choice! Also must be atheist or potentially agnostic. I feel it's important to be with someone who I can be my genuine self with, and that requires honesty surrounding religious discussion.
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Sex aside, I'm a pretty easy-going and open person. My life is about my partner, friends, and dog. I love to laugh and to blush, and enjoy being with someone who gives me crap. Im pretty much an open book, but I love being with someone who can continue to push me and pull out all of my truths. There's something hot about that to me.
I'm very nonjudgmental and straightforward about who I am and what I want in life, and I'm accepting of all sorts of people from different backgrounds. One of the most beautiful things in life is getting to know and love different people, in my opinion. I love feeling my horizons expand by meeting new and different individuals, and I love being challenged with new thoughts and perspectives.
For fun, I love getting outside for hikes or gardening or really anything, and I like frequent visits to city downtown areas to walk around and get some secondhand people exposure. I love grabbing a coffee and people-watching or catching up with a friend. I'm a very dedicated friend and partner, and will be there for those I love in all ways. I love to take my dog on hikes or walks around the city, and enjoy going to all sorts of events and activities. I'm a very artsy person, and want a whole lot more tattoos than the two I have. I'm always down for any sort of activity that friends or partners organize, and I tend to organize a lot of my own events/activities, especially around the holidays. I believe strongly in community and participate in things like Habitat. I am not close with my immediate family at all (for complicated reasons, but I've tried without success to form closer relationships with them), and thus seek out family in others/my community.
Please note that I have Type I Diabetes and wear a medical device (Dexcom-- google it if you're curious). I have no reservations about having TID, but if you have an issue with it, don't waste my time.
