💌 I only initiate messages if you can't, and ask me to. I'm super reserved and can be incredibly shy. Often leads to people thinking I'm not interested, but I might just be more interested than you think. I just struggle to show it. Just ask. I prefer hunters, leaders, initiator. I will not chase you if you leave. Quality over quantity. Not all will be responded to. Yes, I'm real. Yes, I respond to real conversation. Yes I want something real and commited.
Don't send me "hi," or "how are you," "what you up to" "wyd" any minimal effort messages, or any text speak unless you want to be deleted.
If you prefer using voice messages go for it. I won't, but you're welcome to.
NOT INTO having a sub, casual, cyber fun, sharing, or pic exchanges. I am too serious, deep, and sensitive for casual anything.
# What am I open to?
(I have not had a laundry list of sexual experiences/partners so this is not a list of I have done.)
A Dom (soft & hard). TPE. CNC. Free use. Love mask play, breeding kink too. That raw primal possessive ***istic aspect gets me. **All encompassing 24/7, lifetime romantic relationship.** Impact play. Ownership, possession, control. Someone who enjoys teaching, who wants help me learn more. Not already broken in. New & learning. I've been through a lot of sexual *** and trauma so need a solid strong stable hand, and patience to build trust. I was raised by a narcissist. It does not mean I *** and balk from ***, or rough treatment. Plenty more that can be negotiated/discussed, but strangers don't need to know it.
Older or younger as long as you're an adult. I am more into depth, connection, intelligence, communication, attraction.
_**NOTE - Anyone can request my private gallery, it's just more of me. I used to hide my face 🙈 It's NOT my body. My body belongs to the one I'll be in a relationship with because he'll take my clothes off and see it, not the entire internet.**_
🛑 I don't meet people online to off right away. I feel it's important to build trust first, so my template is text - phone - video - meet. It allows time for us both to get to know one another through consistent communication, and see if there's even compatibility enough TO meet, and make an even deeper connection. Totally understand if it doesn't work for you.
# Who am I?
🌻 INFJ-T
Enneagram Type 6 Wing 5 (6w5 Loyalist)
Conundrum. Old-fashioned and traditional. The quiet girl next door who loves to cook (homemade bread for the win!), write (I'm a published author of 53+ stories - paranormal romance, dark fantasy, science fiction, sci fantasy, fantasy, and horror), read (everything), game, and play with my dogs. Blogger (articles). Podcaster. I prefer taking care of my house than running here and there. I'm naturally bubbly most days. I've never met a soul who didn't think I was over 20-30 because I look young. Yes, I really am 44. I'm too honest to lie. I prefer deep discussions. Can't stand lie effort investors. Homebody who will clean, listen to music, and dance happily by herself.
I speak my mind, I'm pretty open, always honest, but try never to be rude. I was raised and trained very much to be a "lady," and can't break myself of a lot of those habits. I have manners. Sapiosexual. Incredibly passionate. High libido. 😱 If you can tap into it, and the passion within? Oh boy. I love psychology and philosophy. Authenticity wins, directness, boldness, courage. Always. I have a deep desire to learn, to grow as a person.
_**Being old-fashioned and traditional means that I am**._
I love to pour everything into the man I'm with, adore him, build him up, support him, make him dinner and wait on him, give him back massages. I am 100% loyal. I love to make men feel incredible, and amazing, which is also a huge reason I'm open to trying almost anything with my person, and want to find someone who is into the idea too. I have a deep desire to serve and to please the person I'm with, to treat him like a King. It goes beyond people pleasing to a deeper level. It fulfills me.
_**What am I looking for in a potential long term partner outside of the rest, I was asked.** -
A stable, strong, secure man. Consistency in communication. Someone who actually commits & stays which seems rare in this world. Intelligence. I really like jack of all trade types. I always sought a best friend beneath all the rest. Because that binds us when life gets hard. So someone I just can truly connect to deeply, laugh & play with, and talk about anything and everything. Who is open and honest, loyal, and not afraid to bare his soul to me. Someone I can unleash the passion I've held back for a long time with too who won't think I'm too much, or starve me with breadcrumbs. Someone I can build a life with, who will work with me when there are problems, who I can disagree with and he doesn't bolt right away. A provider, a protector.
(FetLife - kittygotsclaws)
# BDSM Test Results
100% Submissive
86% Rope bunny
79% Brat
72% Slave
64% Masochist
63% Experimentalist
62% Primal (Prey)
62% Vanilla
59% Pet
36% Voyeur
29% Exhibitionist
29% Little
15% Ageplayer
6% Degradee
Quality control question - tell me you read this far by writing CHEESECAKE at the top of the message you send me.
**# P L E A S E N O T E - **
**My life will be a bit of chaos mode (selling house and moving) for the next 3-6 months (Nov - March) so please excuse erratic in and out, and all around replies at times. Sometimes silence. Not much I can do to help it. Any other platform you wish to talk on, just ask for it.**