Edit 12/31/24: Other than the people I am already talking with, I will likely NOT respond to new messages. I am at my max with socializing as someone who has a limited supply of energy for it. I used to send responses to politely decline those I wasn't curious about, but that's draining too, so I don't think I will going forward. Best wishes to all in their searches!
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Please read my full bio before messaging me. I am not into anything quick or casual, and am looking for someone relatively close by. Thank you!
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A long-term romantic partner would be ideal, in the meantime, I'd be happy to be affectionate with a close FWB (all or mostly exclusive) while we look for our significant others. Closed polycules are as open as I get to avoid STI risk (see second to last paragraph below).
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I quite like living by myself, but do wish for some companionship, & would like a way to meet/explore sexual desires as I have a high libido & curious mind. The variety of kinks & things that turn me on keep expanding.
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I feel confident in my skills for pleasurably introducing someone to anal & prostate play, & would be comfortable leading the way with light to moderate BDSM if not already familiar.
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I'm most often submissive but can switch, and I'd love the chance to explore and gain more experience with that. I've leaned towards pleasure dom or primal hunter in the experiences I've had so far. As sub or dom, I derive a lot of satisfaction from another person's pleasure. Outside of sex, I like being equals with my partner.
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Mutual respect, trust, & at least some fondness are necessary for me to feel safe & let loose sexually.
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A heads-up that I'm currently unable to drive (and that's looking to be a long-term thing), so I'm looking for people relatively close. I do have the flexibility to have people over (after establishing a friendship, at least) or to visit others for longer stretches.
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Since I wish to establish some mental/emotional connection before getting physical, I am open-minded about potential partners continuing to have sex with other people while we get to know each other, as long as there is transparent communication about it. That goes both ways, of course; I currently have one friend with benefits that I visit about once a year. I think not being completely desperate for sex can help immensely in making rational decisions about potential sex and/or life partners.
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Being free of STIs (for me & any partner) is very important to me for stress-free, uninhibited, & unprotected sex play. I have had my tubes removed, so there's no chance for pregnancy. When adding sex to a relationship, I will likely ask to become exclusive (at least for awhile, or unless already in or cultivating a Closed Polycule- ask for details), & to get full STI screenings to show to each other. This is a high priority for me! If avoiding risk is not as important to you, then please pass on.
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I'm an introvert & neurodivergent (w/ sensitivities). I have British style humor & a goofy side w/those I'm comfortable with. I enjoy art, singing, theatre, board/card/word games, bowling, archery, eating good food (especially like trying new things), reading fiction (fantasy or romance) & non-fiction (psychology & the like), & watching Asian dramas (Chinese, Japanese, & Korean). I'm slowly learning another language for fun; trying out Chinese & Japanese & am debating over which one to focus on.
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