ABOUT ME:
Warning: I don't reply to low energy chats/messages.
Before we begin, essentially, the biggest lie people are told is that "Opposites attract." They don't. People only regurgitate that phrase to justify incompatible dynamics.
I'm seeking an exact match: same character, same ethos and ethics and same soul and heart.
About me: (Vanilla)
I'm a writer and future (hopefully) author.
One of my main passions is cooking. I have a natural love and a flair for cooking. I spend a large portion of my life in the kitchen.
I briefly trained as a chef. Then I didn't.
Cooking has always been intuitive and really natural to me. I can't bake worth a damn, though.
I'm a deep thinker. I'm spiritual (NOT religious) and believe in the power of Chi. I believe in Ghosts, Vampires and Werewolves (what's life without whimsy), dimensions, multiverses, etc.
I'm interested in meditation and general self-improvement and self analysis.
The quickest and most reliable road to improvement is admitting mistakes and owning them.
I'm a free-thinker and tend to think independently from the masses. I naturally deviate from convention and tread the path less trodden.
To thine ownself be true.
I'm not a people person. I'm misanthropic.
I'm an introvert. I'm private. I don't like being the centre of attention. In fact, I like to keep as far back from people and the spotlight as possible.
The darkness is my friend.
I'm a geek. Always have been, always will be. Back in the 80s and 90s there was more chance of me being in the company of my Amiga, Spectrum, Master System, Mega Drive and Super Nintendo than a human being.
Not much has changed.
People talk about a "misspent youth." I spent my youth with celebrities such as Sonic the Hedgehog, Mario Brothers, Donkey Kong, Link and Zelda, Ken, Ryu, Guile, etc.
I consider my youth to be spent wonderfully. I am privileged.
I'm deep, introspective, pensive, and morose. I feel more at ease and happiest when I'm alone. I barely tolerate people.
As far as relationships go. I'm open to long distance. I'm seeking a forever relationship.
I don't really care about distance. I mean, let's be honest, the chance of meeting a compatible soul is improbable as it is, if you use geography and location as obstacles, the "improbable" becomes the "impossible".
Besides, it's 2025, not 1725. Distances can be bridged with the aid of heavy machinery.
It takes a while to properly forge a strong relationship: It requires pillars of: respect, trust, honesty, compatibility, and communication. None of those things come easily or without dedication, conviction, and time.
I'm a sapiosexual as well as a demisexual. I find intelligence very, very hot! Saying that, I'm not necessarily looking for a woman who is in MENSA. Intelligence comes in all shapes and sizes with many gradations and nuances.
I require a mental, emotional, and spiritual bond before I can even ponder a physical relationship.
I'm not a social media person. The only social media platform I'm on is Twitter (I'm not calling it X). I'm solely on there to contact customer services of various companies.
I'm antisocial socially and antisocial social-medially.
Social media, and society in general, is full of anger and hate and toxicity. Everyone has opinions about everything. Everyone feels entitled to judge and belittle and edit everything and everyone.
I would much rather work on self-improvement. I would rather elevate myself than edit and judge and denigrate and tear apart strangers.
People give too much credence to the opinion of others. I care about my opinion.
My communication method of choice is emails.
With emails, you're able to convey mass amounts of information and details without interruption, therefore making the "getting to know you" process relatively quicker than short burst of texts on IM.
With emails you can write chapters upon chapters, send it without any expectations of an immediate response.
With IM it's all immediate. It's an obligation to reply instantly.
Sorry. Not for me.
Movies: Fright Night 1 & 2, The Lost Boys, Nosferatu (1922), Interview with the Vampire, Dracula (1931), Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Shadow of the Vampire? Barefoot in the park, Breakfast at Tiffany's, My Fair Lady, Casablanca, Jerry Maguire, Serendipity, Say Anything, Almost Famous, Breakfast Club, Ferris Bueller's day off, Weird Science, Elvira: Mistress of the dark, Elvira: Haunted Hills, Dirty Dancing, The Big Sick, Star Wars (The original trilogy), Firefly.
Television: Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Angel, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend, It's Always sunny in Philadelphia, Wednesday, Seinfeld, Curb Your Enthusiasm, Sex and the City, The Simpsons, Scrubs. South Park.
Author/Writer: Jane Austen, Edgar Allen Poe, Bram Stoker, The Bronte ***s, Emily Dickinson.
Music: The Smiths, The Cure, AC/DC, Classical music, Score.
ABOUT ME: (Kink)
I want a dynamic that is 24/7.
I'm not into "keeping it in the bedroom/behind closed doors", as that's too much like roleplay with an on and off switch and it's way too low energy for me.
No matter where you are or what you're doing, I want our dynamic to be swimming in your veins.
My form of Dominance is one of psychology.
It's my belief that before you can control a body you must first take infiltrate the mind:
I want to know how you think, what you love, what you like, what you hate, and what you dislike. I want to know about your formative years, your upbringing, your parents, your family, etc.
I want to know about your experience as well as your dream dynamic. I want to know what turns you on, what gets your engines roaring, what your limit are, etc.
This dynamic will be a living, breathing organism. It'll grow and develop and mature. It will be 24/7. It'll be all consuming, and it will be a life choice. A life lived together. Forever.
At work, you will be my submissive. At the supermarket and at the mall and out in public, with family you will be owned by me. Your every breath will contain my whisper. Every thought will have my fingerprints.
You will learn from me, I will nurture you and train you to be the greatest version of yourself that you can be.
I'll listen. I'll be your coach. I'll be your teacher, your mentor, your confidant, your protector as well as your best friend.
In essence, I'll make you a better person.
I can not stress this enough. For a D/s dynamic to work, it has to be built on friendship. There must be unbreakable trust and respect. This is framed with communication, and compatibility. Every cylinder must be firing. Every molecule must be engaged.
We will be a team. We will listen, talk, laugh, share and learn from the other. Our bond will be stronger than any metal or element known to God or man.
This isn't an easy connection to develop. It takes honesty, trust, communication, dedication, faith and time. Come into this half-hearted, and it will not work.
Edgar Allen Poe has always been my muse: A Raven, my spirit .
I would enjoy a walk and a picnic in a cemetery (probably by candlelight) as much as normal people would would like a walk and picnic in a park.
My kinks are, but not limited to: Watersports, Vampirism (Hematolagnia) psychological Dominance, fiscal Domination, Goth, taboo, skull-fucking, rough fucking, anal, CNC, play, bimbofication, food control, body modification, behaviour modification, body writing, deepthroat, TPE, chains, leather, outfits, heels, DP (with dildos, etc), toys, edging, tasks.
Hard limits: Poly and ***.
Everything is up for negotiation and discussion. Very little is off the table.
Disclaimer:
I don't initiate contact. Ever. Under any circumstance.
