Sneak a peek at exhibitionists
For every exhibitionist who loves to be seen in sexual situations, there's a voyeur who likes to do the seeing. While traditionally associated with 'peeping toms' and violations of consent, that's not the case in the kink community - there are plenty of ways to get your voyeur on at sex clubs and fetish parties, all with the enthusiastic consent of everyone involved.
If you've never watched anyone else go at it before and you find yourself in one of these situations, it's well worth giving it a try; you might be surprised by how much it can turn you on!
Curious about voyeurism and want to know how to start?
If you’ve never actually been a voyeur but have always fancied it, why not try it out? Voyeurs crave watching other people have sex - the individuals in action don’t know you are there and you aren’t allowed to blow your cover and join in. It can be just as sexually frustrating as it is satisfying!
Voyeurism is a two-way street. If you find an exhibitionist, then you’re all set for fun times ahead. Many times you can satisfy your desires to peek through other people’s windows by engaging in some good old fashioned role play. Set up a scene with your consenting partner(s) and play the ‘peeping tom’. (Make sure your neighbours are cool!)
The catch 22 about voyeurism is it’s undeniably thrilling to do something you’re not supposed to do, on the other hand doing jail time, not so much. Fortunately, this fetish doesn’t have to stay in the closet…
Places for voyeurism
As mentioned before, the risk of getting caught isn't worth it - there are plenty of places to watch others getting down and dirty, without getting into trouble for it! If public sex is new territory for you, one way to ease into it is by going to a sex show. You can see people having sex live, and it’s a little like porn, only there aren't any pixels.
The most common places a voyeur can find satisfaction are at sex clubs or fetish parties. These are places where sex is bound to happen, typically with an exhibitionist flavour. Keep in mind that just because people are having sex in public doesn’t mean they want to be watched, so never assume it’s okay. If you see something heating up, go over and ask if it’s okay for you to watch. As long as everyone consents then enjoy the view!
I love being a voyeur is that okay?
Sure it is fine to be a voyeur if you use it in constructive and fun ways and everyone involved has given enthusiastic consent then you sit back and watch to your hearts content. However, if you feel your voyeurism negatively impacting your life then see a medical professional. As with any of these kind of fetishes, if it’s fun and enhances your life it’s a brilliant thing. If you ever feel it’s not fun anymore, it’s a compulsion or addiction, that’s the point to seek help.
How can I practice voyeurism with consent?
Roleplay is the ideal way for you to play with this voyeur fantasy. Agree in advance the scene you want with some willing exhibitionists. Set it up in a voyeur friendly environment like your local dungeon, BDSM or sex club and keep within the bounds and limits you set. You get the thrill of watching, with the risk of getting caught…whether you get caught or not is then totally up to you.
Sometimes exhibitionists at sex/swingers/BDSM clubs and dungeons actively look for voyeurs to watch on as they do a scene. This is a great way to indulge especially if you like the idea of viewing strangers. Ask them if it’s okay to peep, to give you that feeling you might get caught. Never, ever, ever peep without consent from all parties involved. It’s not fair, it’s not fun and it is against the rules of most clubs and dungeons. It can lead to you being banned and maybe even criminal conviction.
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