Hello,

As the title suggests I am an 18 yo Male, who is interested in exploring my submissive side and mainly pegging. I'll make it clear though that I am a switch (not purely submissive), I can travel but not accommodate (happy to book hotels etc), I am not always free as I live a relatively busy lifestyle, I do have a partner (who does not know about this and I do not want them to find out, so please keep that in mind), but I am looking for something a bit extra and learn about myself from someone who would be willing to be patient at times but push me at the same time to go out of my comfort zone and try new things.

IF that hasn't put you off, and would like to help me/play with me then here is a little bit more information:

I am located in the Oxfordshire area, and I can travel freely as I please. I do work regular hours and my weekends can be a bit hit or miss if I'm busy or not. I would rather 'schedule' something in than having a spontaneous session so that I can organise my way around it. Due to my age I am very inexperienced in this world but I am looking forward to being exposed to BDSM more and more as I learn about myself. I don't have any age preferences at all, and I am open to anything at least once. But I would love to try pegging as that is something I have a fantasy for, I don't want to rush straight into it I would need some time to get to know each other before we do anything sexually, this doesn't have to be in person it can be online (please bear in mind I will have notifications silenced as I don't want my partner to find out but I am regularly checking my phone).

I am NOT looking for any kind of FinDom, however I am willing to buy toys/outfits (within reason) to enhance our play sessions, also I have toyed with the Idea of booking a dungeon but have never had anyone to go with, this would be ideal because then there is nothing to worry about and no one can hear anything that's going on ;). I'm hoping that we click and I would like to go to munches or events together too when we get a bit further down the line.

So if you are interested, please read through my profile before messaging, then please leave a comment or send me a DM and I'll get back to you as quickly as possible.

(I've tried to make this as professional/clear as I can but if there is anything I could do differently then let me know as I am always learning!)

Thank you so much for reading,
-Funnyguy435

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