Dominants like to be in control. Unlike BDSM tops or sadists, their need is not particularly to inflict pain but to be domineering and have control over another person. Some Doms/Dommes expect to be obeyed immediately and without questions. Others enjoy being tested, and having to show their dominance over the submissive who’s being bratty.
There is no one way to be a Dominant. Dom/Dommes can also be sadists, tops, masters or riggers. Dominant is a huge category of BDSM made up of many very different people who all have one thing in common, their need to be in control.
The D in the term BDSM stands for Dominance, therefore Dominants are an instrumental part of BDSM.
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Non-monogamists break with the societal tradition of having just one partner at a time. They will prefer to be in an open relationship. They can be called polyamorous. They don’t see sex or kink as something to keep between themselves and just one other person. They can have several partners at once, these can be just for play or more serious relationships. Every non-monogamist will have different approaches to non-monogamy.
Polyamorists will have, or look to be in, more than one relationship. These will be more than play and sex, and involve a romantic and/or intimate aspect. Swingers may be married or in a committed relationship with one person but they will indulge in kink or sexual play with other people too. Swingers can be single, it’s not all about wife-swapping. Anyone not in a monogamous relationship can be referred as polyamorous.
Non-monogamists can indulge in all kinds of fetishes and kink play. They can be Dominant, submissive or switch if they’re into BDSM. They will rarely be slaves as devotion to one Master or Mistress doesn’t come easy to them. However, they might work well in a relationship with multiple slaves and one or more Dominant partner.
A submissive who enjoys being restrained is called a rope bunny. They don’t have to be restrained by rope. Chain can be used or spreader bars, items of clothing or handcuffs. A rope bunny enjoys the constriction of restraint.
A rope bunny may really enjoy rope. The feel and the constriction as well as the artistic value of the ties. They may enjoy being suspended in rope too. There are all kinds of rope, with different sensations from soft to scratchy. A masochistic rope bunny will enjoy extra pain with their restraint and may like to mix restraints with impact play.
Some rope bunnies are very into the artistic element of rope. Enjoying being part of shibari and kinbaku rope ties. This kind of bunny in particular will need a rigger to play with, as it takes time and practise to tie in these artistic ways. Other rope bunnies are more interested in the bondage element. Not really bothered about how they’re restrained, just that they are.
Rope bunny is an all-encompassing term for a submissive who enjoys being controlled by restraint. This can be purely a kink thing, or it might be a sexual turn on too. Bondage play doesn’t have to be sexual, just like any other BDSM play it can be very satisfying on it’s own.
As with any classification of submissive there are many different preferences a rope bunny could prefer. Some may be very much into the feel of cold chain, others may enjoy the ungiving nature of wooden stocks and pillories.