Black Male Dominant seeking Submissive Female for eventual Long Term Relationship / living together as a D/S couple.

I have a high sex drive and stamina, and am seeking a genuine female who is similarly highly sexed and kinky. Your colour is irrelevant to me.

One-night-stands and No-strings encounters are great and I'm more than happy to partake, however, I find that the sex and the kink always get much better the longer you get to know and crucially, LEARN about them. Hence the interest in getting into a long-term relationship.

I'm stockily built and weigh in at approx 14st 7lbs.

Although I'm 58, I do not look it - no wrinkles - this is both a blessing and a curse depending on the scenario I happen to be in. Like the saying goes, "Black Don't Crack" LOL.

I do not switch, and I have no interest in doing things with other men apart from sharing a woman who has agreed to CONSENSUAL (CNC) *** of herself - MFM.

I can travel or accommodate.

I do not have a face profile, but happy to send my face pictures to anyone I engage with.

I'm also happy to converse over video mediums such as WhatsApp, Skype, Zoom, etc, etc. This way, YOU can see that I'm real and I can see that YOU are too.

After a couple of virtual meets though, I would prefer to meet in real life, obviously, once the female feels comfortable to do so after our video conversations. It is only then, after we've physically met a few times, that we can really determine if there will be any long term future, or whether for us, it's just short term fun.

I will not participate in endless emails and chats, as the goal is to actually meet, and if I feel that's the route our fledgling relationship is taking, I will terminate it.

Unfortunately, there are too many fantasists, fakers and pros masquerading as real kinksters, and it takes time to weed out other genuine souls like myself.


There is more to being a Dom than just whack-and-go!

Genuine females, please feel free to ask any questions.

BDSM Play Partner18 to 62 years ● 100km around UK Wolverhampton

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