Hello,

As the title suggests I am an 19 yo Male, who is looking for a female sub or domme this sunday. I'll make it clear though that I am a switch (not purely submissive or dominant but I am happy to stick to one depending on the person), I can travel but not accommodate (happy to book hotels etc), I am not always free as I live a relatively busy lifestyle. I do have a partner (who does not know about this and I do not want them to find out, so please keep that in mind), but I am looking for something a bit extra and learn about myself from someone who would be willing to be patient at times but push me at the same time to go out of my comfort zone and try new things.

IF that hasn't put you off, and would like to help me/play with me then here is a little bit more information:

I am located in the Oxfordshire area, and I can travel freely as I please. I do work regular hours and my weekends can be a bit hit or miss if I'm busy or not. I would rather 'schedule' something in than having a spontaneous session so that I can organise my way around it. Due to my age I am inexperienced in this world but I am looking forward to being exposed to BDSM more and more as I learn about myself. I don't have any age preferences at all, and I am open to anything at least once. But I would love to try pegging as that is something I have a fantasy for, I don't want to rush straight into it I would need some time to get to know each other before we do anything sexually, this doesn't have to be in person it can be online (please bear in mind I will have notifications silenced as I don't want my partner to find out but I am regularly checking my phone).

I am NOT looking for any kind of FinDom, however I am willing to buy toys/outfits (within reason) to enhance our play sessions, also I have toyed with the Idea of booking a dungeon but have never had anyone to go with, this would be ideal because then there is nothing to worry about and no one can hear anything that's going on ;). I'm hoping that we click and I would like to go to munches or events together too when we get a bit further down the line.

So if you are interested, please read through my profile before messaging, then please leave a comment or send me a DM and I'll get back to you as quickly as possible.

(I've tried to make this as professional/clear as I can but if there is anything I could do differently then let me know as I am always learning!)

Thank you so much for reading,
-Funnyguy435

NSA18 to 60 years ● 75km around UK Deddington

🌹 In the quiet before the storm, I imagine you
A kindred spirit who knows that desire is an art, not a frenzy.
A woman who craves the velvet weight of anticipation, the poetry of a whispered “please,”
and the electric dance between control and surrender.

Who I Am:
A connoisseur of contrasts—gentle hands that chart shivers, a mind that worships intellect as fiercely as it does the curve of your hips.
I thrive in the liminal: the space between a command and a plea, the gasp that follows a bite, the way trust bends but never breaks.
My kink is connection—ropes that bind like sonnets, power exchanged like sacred vows, and scenes ted with consent as the first brushstroke.

Seeking:
A woman unafraid to name her cravings, who sees submission as strength and dominance as devotion.
You might be a secret hedonist in lace and leather, or a quiet
who melts at the thrill of a well-placed touch.
Bring me your curiosity, your boundaries, your hunger to explore the shadows and the light.
Let’s blur the lines—between * and pleasure, reverence and rebellion, the sacred and the sinful.

Our Playground Could Be:**

  • Power Dynamics: A chess match of wills—sharp wit, sharper tension, and the sweet relief of yielding (or taking).
  • Sensation Alchemy: Wax, feathers, teeth… let’s turn nerve endings into constellations.
  • Roleplay Realms: Teacher/student, predator/prey, or a story we invent together—where fantasy bleeds into truth.

    Non-Negotiables:

  • Consent is our compass. Always.
  • Aftercare as ritual—warmth, whispers, and the quiet hum of “you’re safe here.”
  • Laughter as liturgy. Even saints smirk in the dark.

    First, Let’s:
    Share a fantasy that thrills you, a limit that guards you, or a scene that lives rent-free in your daydreams.
    I’ll match your honesty with mine, and we’ll build a world where wanting feels like worship.


    🔥 “Darling, let’s write a new language—one where every moan is a verb, every scar a love letter.”

    P.S. Safe words are sacred. Judgment is banned here. Magic is optional… but highly likely.


    🌙 Open to novices and veterans alike—curiosity and respect are the only prerequisites.

BDSM Play Partner18 to 35 years ● 500km around USA Rochester

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