Foreplay

For the fun of foreplay

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The usual story goes that 'foreplay' is all the stuff you get up to during sex that isn't, you know, mechanical thrusting. You've probably heard a lot of stuff about how women need it more than men do, too - as though generalisations like that are either helpful or accurate!

Here at Fetish.com, we're huge fans of all the activities involved in what people call foreplay - but not necessarily of the concept itself. Sex isn't always between one person with a penis and another with a vagina, it doesn't always start and end with perfectly defined boundaries and the literal fucking doesn't always have to be the most important part! Rather than looking at your sexual encounters as a three course meal where the PIV is the main event, think of them as a buffet: you can try a little bit of everything, go back as often as you like, and have things in any order you fancy.

What is foreplay?

The classic definition says it’s activity that leads up to sexual intercourse but sometimes intercourse is not the climax of a scene. So it is everything that gets you in the mood for more.

How much foreplay is normal?

How long is a piece of string? It’s hard to define what is just foreplay and everyone has different needs. Some people might need a lot of warming up to enjoy a scene, others might like to go into it with very little prep. The right amount is the amount that all parties involve need. And that will change all the time. So go with the flow.

Is foreplay just for women?

No, no and more no. There is a myth that women need it more than guys. It’s a very heteronormative concept and assumes that guys are all just about intercourse. That is not the case. Everyone needs foreplay sometimes. It isn’t something to be divided by gender.

Do you need foreplay in BDSM?

Yes, and you probably do it without thinking. Before impact play you warm a person up, when using a new implement of any kind you use it gently first, maybe rub it over the person’s body to let them get used to it. When tying a person with rope, you discuss what’s going on and make sure they’re comfortable in the position they are in. Using restraints you check they aren’t too tight. Maybe pull and yank on them to show the sub who is boss. All these acts are foreplay.

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    Creating a memorable and enjoyable underwater experience for a woman requires attention to detail, respect, and mutual understanding. Here are some ideas to incorporate various elements like foreplay, loyalty, and assertiveness into an underwater context:

    Foreplay: Setting the Scene
    Foreplay in the underwater world can begin outside of the water, creating anticipation. This could include light teasing, playful touches, and gentle whispering of positive affirmations that enhance the experience. If you’re both preparing to enter the water together, you might slowly guide her into the water, creating a comfortable and intimate transition. As you ease her into the water, hold her with care, and offer her your support through words and touch, ensuring that she feels safe and cared for. This establishes trust and sets the tone for what comes next.
    Noticing Me: Attuning to Her Needs
    While underwater, noticing small cues in her body language can show attentiveness. Pay attention to her movements, any signs of hesitation or excitement, and adjust accordingly. Communicating through touch or eye contact lets her know that you’re tuned in to her experience, making her feel seen and valued. If she’s relaxed, you can move closer; if she’s tense, slow down and ensure she feels reassured. The key is being in sync, offering her the space to feel in control while also showing you're fully engaged.
    Respectful: Ensuring Comfort
    Respect is paramount in creating an enjoyable underwater experience. Whether you're guiding her deeper into the water or simply floating together, ensure that her comfort is your top priority. This means giving her room to breathe, not rushing her, and allowing her to decide the pace of the experience. By being gentle and asking for consent with every action, you'll make her feel safe and respected in the environment, leading to a more pleasurable experience.
    Loyalty: Demonstrating Trust
    Underwater, loyalty can be reflected in the way you show your constant support. Be her anchor, both literally and figuratively. Ensure she feels supported when she needs it and maintain constant reassurance. You can demonstrate loyalty by guiding her through the experience with patience, understanding that any discomfort or nervousness is natural. Remind her that you are in this together, strengthening the bond between you two. By creating a stable and supportive environment, you nurture the trust that will allow her to relax and enjoy.
    Giving Guidance: Encouraging Exploration
    Underwater experiences can be overwhelming if unfamiliar, so offering gentle guidance can make her feel more comfortable. This could include verbal encouragement, guiding her movements softly, or offering advice on breathing techniques to help her stay relaxed. Giving her the choice to follow your lead or explore on her own shows that you’re there to support, but also trust her ability to navigate the experience.
    Healthy Protective Awareness: Keeping Her Safe
    Having a protective, yet respectful, attitude can make her feel safe in the underwater experience. You can do this by making sure both of you are aware of the environment, ensuring there are no safety risks, and being ready to help if needed. Keep an eye on her body language and breathing to ensure she is comfortable. If she ever shows signs of unease, be ready to calmly guide her to the surface or offer reassurance. Your protective awareness, without being overbearing, creates an atmosphere of trust where she can fully enjoy the experience.
    Optimistically: Creating a Positive Mindset
    Keeping an optimistic and positive attitude is essential for making the experience fun and enjoyable. Remind her that being underwater is a chance to escape, explore, and experience something beautiful and unique. Whether you’re swimming together or just floating, bringing a light-hearted, cheerful attitude will help her feel relaxed. Optimism is contagious, and your positive energy can help her feel more confident and less anxious.
    Assertive / Joyous: Leading with Confidence
    Confidence is an attractive trait when shared underwater. You can express assertiveness by gently leading her through the water, showing her that you are knowledgeable, but in a way that’s encouraging rather than domineering. With each moment, your confidence will help her feel more secure and willing to dive deeper—both metaphorically and literally. This positive leadership, coupled with joy, creates an atmosphere of excitement and fun, where both of you can enjoy the underwater experience together.
    By blending these qualities—foreplay, attentiveness, respect, loyalty, guidance, protective awareness, optimism, and assertiveness—you can create an experience where a woman feels comfortable, cared for, and truly able to enjoy being underwater with you.

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