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What's the difference between a Dominant and a sadist?
Where can I find a submissive kinkster?
What is sadism?
Does a sadist need a masochist?
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A sadist is someone who derives sexual pleasure from causing pain to their partners - and assuming that everything is consensual and has been negotiated in advance - they can be in high demand amongst the people who love to be on the receiving end (masochists). There are plenty of different kinds of sadism, but they all thrive on one thing: the giving of consensual and well-desired pain. While many sexual sadists are also D/s dominants, this isn't a universal truth; some people are in it for the physical sensations alone without all the mind games, while others are submissives but find that they have a bit of a sadist streak on top.

What's the difference between a Dominant and a sadist?

First of all, let’s define these terms. A dominant is a person who is in control in the relationship, the top. They can be a Dom/Master or Domme/Mistress or simply the person doing the tying, flogging, etc. There is are range of ways to be dominant - see ‘What Time of Dom are You?’ in the magazine.

A sadist is a person who enjoys giving someone else pain and in most cases finds it sexually pleasing. Many times a dominant will be a sadist but not EVERY TIME! It’s a matter of personal preferences and the situation.

Where can I find a submissive kinkster?

If you’re a Dom/me and looking to inflict some discipline on a willing submissive, there are plenty of ways! Here are a few tips on finding that sub-one special.

Online: You’re off to a good start by being on Fetish.com - make a personal ad or check out others in the Quick Kink section. Fill out your profile completely so people can get to know you, it also displays trust, and therefore subs will be more likely to contact you or respond to your messages. Get active on forums and in chat rooms, share with others what you’re into, what you’d like to explore and listen to what others have to say.

Events and fetish parties: Get out there! Go to fetish clubs or bars and mingle with kinksters, live and in person. Find a theme that suits you and regularly go so that people will be familiar with you.

Workshops, munches and more: There are always conferences, workshops and munches happening. So if you’re up for improving your knotty skills go to a bondage workshop. Munches are another way to meet new people casually, and since everyone will be in vanilla-wear, you’ll talk to people to find out more about them! There are sex-positive events like storytelling nights and speed dating events that can help you get to know others.

Fetish.com has one of the fastest growing fetish events databases online so check it out!

What is sadism?

A sadist is a person who gets pleasure from inflicting pain on another person in a safe, sane and consensual manner during BDSM play.

Does a sadist need a masochist?

Pain inflicting sadists match up brilliantly with pain loving masochists but they don’t necessarily have to. A sadist can match up with all different kinds of kinksters, depending on who they get on with and the specific dynamics of that relationship.

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  • Sadism Opposite

    Pablo_Brown posted a topic in New to BDSM, Kink & Fetish?

    Sadism is commonly defined as "the tendency to derive pleasure from the pain or suffering of others." What is the opposite of sadism? Is there a name for a tendancy to derive pleasure from the se ...
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  • Ok bare with me. My wording and phrasing may be poor. *** i want to stress that any events i describe have been safely practised. Responsibly and consensually. No one ...

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    I’m an experienced dominatrix with a penchant for sadism and a few addictive tendencies. I’m searching for a personal sub/slave who’s eager to delve into their submissive nature and is excited to explore their kinks and fantasies under my guidance. If you’re intrigued and ready to be put in your place,reach out to me
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    YourDaddyDarkest
    Oxford sensual cerebral deviant seeks woman to woo

    Bicester-based dom with a penchant for affectionate molestation, deviant displays and emotional and psychological sadism.

    A van-lifer and jaded kinkster, I'm typically apathetic until I find someone to love. Simply, I seek someone to bestow affection, attention and arousal on.

    I'm looking for a relaxed life - someone to pet and punish, as well as play boardgames and go exploring and traveling with. To shape and teach and sculpt into the culmination of our ideals.

    I enjoy innocence tainted and erotic irony. Sobs and screams muffled around your underwear balled into your mouth or my cock spreading your throat as you try to stroke me to orgasm with your hands at your neck to earn yourself some air; I love to make people choose debasement for their own satisfaction or as an ironic path to release, whether orgasm or more generically physical. If not choking yourself to be able to breathe then your squirming, shuffling feet, sobbing and mewling as you're trapped being edged by a vibrator just barely touching you, leading to you begging to be spanked or face-fucked so it goes that extra inch.

    I'd love a giggly girly princess to pretty and pervert, a fun, dumb girl to treat and traumatise. Whether you're already one or I have to break and remake you into a pleasuring plaything. I want someone I can buy beautiful things for and dress up trashy, then have fawn and coo for me and tease and titillate me into beating them for being so wanton. Someone to sculpt into pure tainted innocence, a cocktease who exudes arousal in everything they do, but seems totally unaware. I'll want you to do and dress as you're told, to be pierced and changed and transitioned into the perfection of corruption.

    Mascara trails as your mouth is wrapped around my cock are a special enjoyment, and having your tear-streaked face looking up at me as I tell you the next stage of your life will make me throb against your lips.

    I more emphatically also seek emotional connections, expecting you to come rest your head in my lap or pull my arms around you. To have you colouring in pornography at your desk as I write, to be servicing me as I read, or pulling at my hand as we go out on day trips and weekends away. I will want to talk and get to know every inch of you, inside and out, corporeal and metaphysical. Your emotions and mental health are things I take very seriously and seek to safeguard, despite abusing them in our agreed upon ways for your arousal.

    I particularly seek someone to dress and display: high heels, basques and corsets, flared skirts, leotards, swimwear and French knickers and thongs rising above waistbands all engage. Bare-handed punishment is a particular preference of mine, your flailing legs in stockings or high socks kicking from beneath a short skirt, glowing cheeks framed by suspender straps and lace stocking tops. PPE is also a core kink, particularly mental conditioning and training, (transformation into something sexual, whether doll, beast or bimbo, is another major enjoyment) so having defined rules and requirements followed should appeal - holding my hand whilst we're out, eating and exercising properly, being dressed in/appropriately as dictated.

    Compliance earns affection and pleasure. Disobedience rewards time for reflection and a more excruciating form of pleasing.

    Come be the focus of my loving attention and suffer the barbs of my endless puns.

    I am serious and expect those who message me to have serious intent as well, whether for play, power exchange or platonic pursuits.
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    It's not uncommon - especially in the kinky world - for someone to process pain as pleasure, and to crave sensations a little rougher and more intensive than are usually considered the norm. These people are often called 'masochists', and while it's important to remember that the word isn't synonymous with 'submissive' (not all masochists enjoy psychological submission, and not all subs are particularly interested in physical pain!) the two often go hand in hand and each category has traits in common with the other. Masochists are the opposite number to sadists, who enjoy inflicting consensual physical pain just as much as their masochistic partners enjoy receiving it.
    There's more than one 'official' definition of what the letters in BDSM stand for, and plenty of people don't agree on their exact usage! However you use the term, though, it's a catch-all way of describing a whole bunch of kinks and fetishes that are more common than many people imagine: bondage and impact play, sadism and masochism, domination and submission. Safety, consent and respect for boundaries are all key in the practice of BDSM, and it's vital to negotiate properly with your partners before getting into anything heavy-handed. Thankfully it's not so hard to learn - most places around the world have their own BDSM communities that are only too happy to take in newbies and help them learn the ropes.
    Submissives get off on giving away their control over themselves: on being directed and compelled, on following orders and losing agency. Some like to do this through bondage and physical restriction; some by feeling psychologically subservient to a dominant partner; some through pain play. Many like a combination of these things. The key to figuring out a fantastic D/s dynamic is communication--make sure both sides of the equation are getting what they want and what they need, and that everyone is well aware of safewords and limits. Some people enjoy having dominance and submission as part of their everyday relationship, while others prefer keeping it in the bedroom. Either of these kink styles is fine - just so long as everyone is on the same page.