About me
Interested in:
I’m looking for:
- Friends
- Kinky Dates
- Events & Places
- Networking
- NSA (no strings...)
- Swingers
- BDSM Lovers
Description
So my previous description is below if you are interested…. but mostly irrelevant. my main reason now is that I have 20+ experience in the scene to share. I had a wonderful introduction to the scene… I got very lucky. I want that for everyone. but don’t take anything I say as gospel… there is no right or wrong way way to do this… ok there are wrong ways(damaging ways). basically I want to be better. I want the BDSM community to be an inclusive way to learn how to be better. And if I say something wrong please call me out… I may defend my position but am always willing to learn.
When it comes to sex I am a secret, sensual, sybaritic, seraphic, striking, seductive sadist, delighting in degenerate, debauched deviancy.
I thrive on the darker, more adventurous and daring side of carnal delights, with many years as a Dominant (more than all my adult life). Love to explore and experience as much as life has to offer. To tease and expand my partners limits (or with the right partner completely obliterate them, but that is more than most can contemplate). I have almost no limits in what I can enjoy with the right person (I play to other people's limits) but the mental side of things and finding my partner's mental triggers is what really excites me. Where you can tease someone to the point of complete, body trembling, mind numbing, exhausting arousal. By touch, talk, tease, stimulation, excitement, a tinge of , triggers or any other tools that can be utilised. Tying someone so every sense is heightened, every sound sends quakes of anticipation through every atom, every touch causes tremors to run right through you. And for those that are a little more daring the more extreme side of things.
I love taboos; sexual , role play, hypnotism. But again not everything works for everyone. It's all about finding the things that work between you, and the spark between two people is paramount. Even the most 'tame' of things can be amazing with the right person, whereas the most erotic of things can fall flat with the wrong one.
Outside of the lascivious, lecherous, lewd, libidinous, licentious, and lustful joys of life I like to think I am fairly intelligent… possibly ever so slightly pretentious, creative, witty, and companionable but all of that is subjective and obviously I'm biased so you'll have to make up your own mind. Similarly I get told I am attractive but that is for others to say. I am self confident and have been blessed with full and well rounded life to this point. And importantly, in spite of my alternative tastes I am safe, sane and pass for 'normal', keeping the depravity hidden behind my eyes when not appropriate (though it is fun to have that frisson of 'if only they knew').
So if you feel bold and brave, or rash and reckless then please email and let's see what fun we can find together.
Limits
Hmmm I have never found my hard limits. I always play to other people’s. That said I have no particular interest in needing to call out the police, ambulance, fire brigade, coast guard or mountain rescue… I’m picky like that.
My kinks & fetishes
I like:
- Age Play
- Anal Hook
- Anal Play
- Anal Sex
- Anal Beads
- Anal Plugs
- Fear Play
- Blindfolds
- Ball Gag
- Bastinado
- BDSM
- BDSM Collar
- Bizarre Fetish
- Bondage
- Bondage Shackles
- Bondage Cuffs
- Bondage Hood
- Bondage Rope
- Breast Play
- Cisgender
- Collar & Leash
- Cuckold Bull
- Dacryphilia
- Deep Throating
- Defilement
- Dildos
- Dirty Talk
- Domination
- Threesomes
- Edgeplay
- Edging
- Electro Sex Stimulation
- Violet Wand
- Erotic Film
- Erotic Hypnosis
- Extreme Bondage
- Face Slapping
- Restraints
- Fingering
- Fisting
- Floggers
- Foreplay
- Gags
- Hair Pulling
- Rough Sex
- Humiliation
- Hobble Skirt
- Kinky Sex
- Knife Play
- Massage
- Nose Hook
- Needles
- Nipple Play
- Orgasm Control
- Spanking Paddles
- Post Orgasm Torture
- Predicament Bondage
- Puppy Play
- Rimming
- Sadism
- Sensory Deprivation
- Sex Parties
- Sex Machine
- Younger Sex Partners
- Sex Toys
- Sissification
- Slave Training
- Spanking
- Trans Woman
- Vibrators
- Watersports
- Whips
My places
Fetish.com gives you…
Fetish.com is like an appetizing smorgasbord in Guildford with lots of hot guys to meet up with. Have a look around first if you prefer to see who’s around, or if you know what you want, search by selecting the right category "Kinky Dating”. Nobody stays alone here for long! Fetish.com has tons going on!
In the old days, you had to be a sub before you became a dom.
I do believe knowing what it feels like to be on the other side of the belt has helped me be a better Dom. I’ve never been sub but life experiences kind of naturally put me through the old process. I do think for quality control of the Read more… experiences, everyDom should know what it feels like to do the things they are doing to someone else, especially in the impact area of the lifestyle. 
Ok… in some areas (particularly in america as I understand it) you had to be either a sub or mentored. And to be fair it does give you a greater understanding of how things work (physically, emotionally, mentally). But, from my opinion, it’s different for everyone. You don’t HAVE to but it is good to understand how it feels and works.
Trust is paramount in any relationship… but especially in kink. You are opening yourself up to potential harm or legal issues whether sub or Dom/me. If the trust isn’t there don’t do it. But also trust is earned.
Ok… the hard part (and only from some clown on the internet) he may never or never could have been what you truly wanted or needed. That aside you already highlighted positives. Things you want and need, but also things to look out for in the future, good and bad.
This is also know as whamaggedon.
But to answer the actual question… no I don’t, for me it’s not something that switches on or off… it’s always there but not necessarily played upon. In the same way I might feel more or less free to express any other aspect of my self depending on who is around.
Pa… inne
So for me the way I got to understand it was that subspace is a distinct thing (usually from *** pleasure interface)… where adrenaline etc create an almost euphoric state…
That said a lot of people use subspace to mean a headspace you get into… and that very much can have different connotations Read more… and associations.
This is a good step
Yes I do. You have created a pattern match of this being an issue. The brain does this it’s normal. The same as any phobia or anxiety. There is a solution or ways forward. The brain can’t tell the difference between imagination and reality. The more you imagine this being a normal thing the more Read more… you create a pattern match that says this is normal.. ok this is glob and trite so feel free to talk to me (I’m a qualified hypnotherapist)… but also just look up for yourself without that.
Marriage or first child.
But seriously it very much depends on those involved, the circumstances, how much time you have spent together and a whole lot of other things.
Curious did you mean “no” good or “so” good?
This is exactly it (from my experience)… it’s enough of a release to make you crave it more without actually getting fulfilment (basically how netflix/facebook etc work) and also elements of submission and *** too.
I have trained someone to love ruined orgasms more than actual orgasms… they liked the core ache it gave them. Some of it is physical and some very much mental imo
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