About me
Interested in:
I’m looking for:
- Friends
- Kinky Dates
- Events & Places
- Networking
- NSA (no strings...)
- Swingers
- BDSM Lovers
Description
So my previous description is below if you are interested…. but mostly irrelevant. my main reason now is that I have 20+ experience in the scene to share. I had a wonderful introduction to the scene… I got very lucky. I want that for everyone. but don’t take anything I say as gospel… there is no right or wrong way way to do this… ok there are wrong ways(damaging ways). basically I want to be better. I want the BDSM community to be an inclusive way to learn how to be better. And if I say something wrong please call me out… I may defend my position but am always willing to learn.
When it comes to sex I am a secret, sensual, sybaritic, seraphic, striking, seductive sadist, delighting in degenerate, debauched deviancy.
I thrive on the darker, more adventurous and daring side of carnal delights, with many years as a Dominant (more than all my adult life). Love to explore and experience as much as life has to offer. To tease and expand my partners limits (or with the right partner completely obliterate them, but that is more than most can contemplate). I have almost no limits in what I can enjoy with the right person (I play to other people's limits) but the mental side of things and finding my partner's mental triggers is what really excites me. Where you can tease someone to the point of complete, body trembling, mind numbing, exhausting arousal. By touch, talk, tease, stimulation, excitement, a tinge of , triggers or any other tools that can be utilised. Tying someone so every sense is heightened, every sound sends quakes of anticipation through every atom, every touch causes tremors to run right through you. And for those that are a little more daring the more extreme side of things.
I love taboos; sexual , role play, hypnotism. But again not everything works for everyone. It's all about finding the things that work between you, and the spark between two people is paramount. Even the most 'tame' of things can be amazing with the right person, whereas the most erotic of things can fall flat with the wrong one.
Outside of the lascivious, lecherous, lewd, libidinous, licentious, and lustful joys of life I like to think I am fairly intelligent… possibly ever so slightly pretentious, creative, witty, and companionable but all of that is subjective and obviously I'm biased so you'll have to make up your own mind. Similarly I get told I am attractive but that is for others to say. I am self confident and have been blessed with full and well rounded life to this point. And importantly, in spite of my alternative tastes I am safe, sane and pass for 'normal', keeping the depravity hidden behind my eyes when not appropriate (though it is fun to have that frisson of 'if only they knew').
So if you feel bold and brave, or rash and reckless then please email and let's see what fun we can find together.
Limits
Hmmm I have never found my hard limits. I always play to other people’s. That said I have no particular interest in needing to call out the police, ambulance, fire brigade, coast guard or mountain rescue… I’m picky like that.
My kinks & fetishes
I like:
- Age Play
- Anal Hook
- Anal Play
- Anal Sex
- Anal Beads
- Anal Plugs
- Fear Play
- Blindfolds
- Ball Gag
- Bastinado
- BDSM
- BDSM Collar
- Bizarre Fetish
- Bondage
- Bondage Shackles
- Bondage Cuffs
- Bondage Hood
- Bondage Rope
- Breast Play
- Cisgender
- Collar & Leash
- Cuckold Bull
- Dacryphilia
- Deep Throating
- Defilement
- Dildos
- Dirty Talk
- Domination
- Threesomes
- Edgeplay
- Edging
- Electro Sex Stimulation
- Violet Wand
- Erotic Film
- Erotic Hypnosis
- Extreme Bondage
- Face Slapping
- Restraints
- Fingering
- Fisting
- Floggers
- Foreplay
- Gags
- Hair Pulling
- Rough Sex
- Humiliation
- Hobble Skirt
- Kinky Sex
- Knife Play
- Massage
- Nose Hook
- Needles
- Nipple Play
- Orgasm Control
- Spanking Paddles
- Post Orgasm Torture
- Predicament Bondage
- Puppy Play
- Rimming
- Sadism
- Sensory Deprivation
- Sex Parties
- Sex Machine
- Younger Sex Partners
- Sex Toys
- Sissification
- Slave Training
- Spanking
- Trans Woman
- Vibrators
- Watersports
- Whips
My places
Fetish.com gives you…
Fetish.com is like an appetizing smorgasbord in Woking with lots of hot guys to meet up with. Have a look around first if you prefer to see who’s around, or if you know what you want, search by selecting the right category "Kinky Dating”. Nobody stays alone here for long! Fetish.com has tons going on!
Curious did you mean “no” good or “so” good?
This is exactly it (from my experience)… it’s enough of a release to make you crave it more without actually getting fulfilment (basically how netflix/facebook etc work) and also elements of submission and *** too.
I have trained someone to love ruined orgasms more than actual orgasms… they liked the core ache it gave them. Some of it is physical and some very much mental imo
No. We wouldn’t be compatible sexually… but more importantly we would constantly trying to one up each other with awful puns.
Ok… what I would advise professionally is to take the pressure off. The brain sees change (especially major change like a break up) as potential threat. Do the things that gives your brain the happy hormones it needs. Spend time on yourself, explore hobbies, see friends and family, so exercise you Read more… enjoy. Engage with other people too. That may well find what you are looking for. (My clients hate that I keep telling them to do things they enjoy)🤣
Ok so what makes sense to me is finding someone potentially interested. Then seeing if you have connection on more than that level. Seeing if there is trust. Now those might not be the steps that work for you but building things up one step at a time… and it might take time. The first step might be Read more… just finding acceptance in a community of like minded people. Or whatever makes sense for you.
So… please bear in mind that this is third hand. When I was c. 24 I met someone on the scene who was 19 years older. They went through menopause while we were together (we were together for 8 years and are still good friends). From that experience… there was a dip in sex drive but also a massive Read more… increase afterwards. I have also spoken to people that her gone to the extreme one way or the other. It is entirely personal and also what engages you… in my oh so humble opinion
Yes and no. For some it’s an incredibly intense experience… for other ls it’s entirely imconsequential
Yes I do. But I am drunk so am going to try to remember to answer when I am not. But essentially the more you think something the more the brainwaves follow the same pattern. But the more you (consciously at first) think what you think what you want to think the more your natural thought process Read more… will align with that. That said as I say I am drunk so I cannot guarantee I will remember this. So if you want to ask anything just ask. Or completely ignore too.
When it comes to sex I am a secret, sensual, sybaritic, seraphic, striking, seductive sadist, delighting in degenerate, debauched deviancy.
I thrive on the darker, more adventurous and daring side of carnal delights, with many years as a Dominant (more than all my adult life). Love to explore and experience as much as life has to offer. To tease and expand my partners limits (or with the right partner completely obliterate them, but that is more than most can contemplate). I have almost no limits in what I can enjoy with the right person (I play to other people's limits) but the mental side of things and finding my partner's mental triggers is what really excites me. Where you can tease someone to the point of complete, body trembling, mind numbing, exhausting arousal. By touch, talk, tease, stimulation, excitement, a tinge of , triggers or any other tools that can be utilised. Tying someone so every sense is heightened, every sound sends quakes of anticipation through every atom, every touch causes tremors to run right through you. And for those that are a little more daring the more extreme side of things.
I love taboos; sexual , role play, hypnotism. But again not everything works for everyone. It's all about finding the things that work between you, and the spark between two people is paramount. Even the most 'tame' of things can be amazing with the right person, whereas the most erotic of things can fall flat with the wrong one.
Outside of the lascivious, lecherous, lewd, libidinous, licentious, and lustful joys of life I like to think I am fairly intelligent… possibly ever so slightly pretentious, creative, witty, and companionable but all of that is subjective and obviously I'm biased so you'll have to make up your own mind. Similarly I get told I am attractive but that is for others to say. I am self confident and have been blessed with full and well rounded life to this point. And importantly, in spite of my alternative tastes I am safe, sane and pass for 'normal', keeping the depravity hidden behind my eyes when not appropriate (though it is fun to have that frisson of 'if only they knew').
So if you feel bold and brave, or rash and reckless then please email and let's see what fun we can find together.
I love this answer
I think we are pretty much saying the same thing. That’s what I meant by equally valued but not the same.
Ok… I think this has been misinterpreted… I am not bemoaning that I don’t have comments. I have two the I am aware of, and I genuinely only saw that recently, I had no idea I had any at all, and honestly paid no mind to it. My point was more… how much attention do you pay to them? Are you aware of Read more… if you have any and how much does it make any impact? Male and female. 1 or 1 million comments. Purely idle curiosity not any sort or agenda or commentary:
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