The story you describe is not BDSM, it’s abuse. All three examples are of toxic behaviour. The sub should get the hell out and not look back.

You need to decide what the most important thing is that you are looking for - outside of love, respect, fun, etc - and try to find someone also into that. You can introduce some of the other things over time. You will both at least be of the same kinky mind set. Hit me up if you want to Read more… discuss.

Hi everyone. I have been a closet fetishist since my teens. I have managed two marriages and 4 kids from my second. In all that time, I have been afraid to own up to what turns me on. My second marriage is over, in part to her inability to either take me for who I am or separate this side of me Read more… from the rest; a responsible father and provider. My best friend is the only person I can talk to about it and he convinced me that I must stop looking for vanilla women on Tinder, PoF, Bumble, etc and start looking for someone who shares - or accepts - my sexual preferences. So, here I am. Still shy and nervous. I’m not into dominating or being dominated by anyone. I need a balanced exploration of everything we like and a mutual exchange of love and kinkiness. I’m into dressing up, role play, public/outdoors, water sports, latex, PVC and more. Everyone is into BDSM here. Am I on the wrong site?