Having read this and experienced something recently that has made me seriously question my whole involvement in the D/S dynamic it's stikes me that as you say there's no "bad sub"
The questions I have asked myself relate to the confidence, courage and self esteem that was developed throughout a Read more… relationship that spanned almost a year that saw the sub flourish and develop into a head strong confident young woman in a personal relationship that was so male focused and mechanical that she was deemed an object of sexual outcome and pleasure with no focus on hers at all!
Being able to guide, coach, mentor and educate to have self esteem to stop such actions made her feel empowered and a part of her sexual destiny! What followed after a mutual agreement to separate was a tirade of physical and verbal *** and belittling that are me seriously stand back! Stand back and although i, like many others have personal obstacles that we all deal with, never once let these issues cloud, hinder or darken my in scene behaviour or attention to my sub, with their pleasure and safety at the forefront of my mind.
To this moment now, I may have years of experience and knowledge surrounding the scene and D/S lifestyle! I am really struggling to take back the reigns and lead and direct ! If I can be coercive to bring such hatred and loathing from a dedicated and successful sub out after our relationship has ended and I felt there was no more to show other than for them to take the tools and try within their own relationship it's made me truly reflect on what impact I had on the individual and how the response was to me. It's made me question my outcomes and question what did I coach out of that individual! What buttons did I press to see such hatred and wrath! As someone who's only experienced this once, I can say once is enough and I hope I never succeed in seeing such an outcome ever again! It's not what I'm in this lifestyle for! It's not what I live this life for and I can't help thinking if that person was already there! Or did I bring not only the best, but possibly the worst out of them!

I think the dynamic and concept of how the scene runs depicts the amount of *** / pleasure threshold being administered and for what purpose?
Yes there are those that truly enjoy *** and have high thresholds, however as all Dom/me's know, that balance between the *** pleasure administration can Read more… and does lead to totally unexpected results and outcomes. The sights and visions of subs with marks is extremely erotic, as long as we balance with pleasure which is at our control, by us, and the most beautiful aspect is it's FOR US. A sub that gives their all, intense trust, commitment and pleasure is by far the way to encompass *** to achieve pleasure and watch them in the heights of ecstasy.