As a switch, I've had my share of Dom relationships, and I would say, if that, so called dom, was speaking to you like that on this site he's not a real dom! This site should be a starting point to get to know someone, and each of you figure out what exactly you're looking for and are you Read more… compatible. Once all of that is situated, then the relationship can go in the direction you both approve of. That type of degrading does indeed take place in some relationships, but it has to be established first! You are NOT a bad sub, just not the right one for someone pretending to be a dom!