Misconceptions about Dominant females

[Mi****]

Soooo.. I recently had a message from someone saying they would be my sissy and would like to be a part of my sissy crew that I have.
When I asked what made him think that I had a number of sissies in my dynamics, he said that all Dommes have them.
I have nothing against sissies but don’t usually go for them (although I have a lovely guy who possibly identifies that way in chastity to me).
I think this is an instant that someone is living in their own fantasy world.
So.. my fellow Domme.. what misconceptions have you encountered??

[Li****]

Ik you’re asking for domme’s opinion but I get a lot of misconceptions like that as well with other submissive males, not all of us are feminine, I just like looking like looking cute vs gruff and manly. Doesn’t mean I wanna be slapped in a dress

[MonaR]

Many of the same. I agree, it does seem like they're projecting their own fantasy and making assumptions. 

Edited December 13, 2024 by MonaR

[ne****]

I feel it’s more about the feeling and energy control more than dress and stuffs people try

[Su****]

This is written to Dommes, however...EVERY woman with an online profile receives similar attention from 'sub' (DO ME) guys. Dommes may receive more messages from fantasists / genuine newbies who need educating although it's definitely not exclusive to dominants. How do you deal with them? Educate or ignore?

[Si****]

I'm just picturing what a crew of sissies would actually look like???? Is this like a sissy version of a harem? Or a bikie club? Or like a posse in a western movie? The options are endless. I think like everything in this community, the options are endless and up to each person to determine the dynamic that is right for them.

[dominionhub]

I have made several failed attempts to approach domnes. But, I have tried to be respectful.

[Da****]

  2 hours ago, SubmissionIsEarned said:

This is written to Dommes, however...EVERY woman with an online profile receives similar attention from 'sub' (DO ME) guys. Dommes may receive more messages from fantasists / genuine newbies who need educating although it's definitely not exclusive to dominants. How do you deal with them? Educate or ignore?

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Some people go ignored. Especially the more demanding and ignorant ones who clearly did not pay attention to my profile. Those who approach with kindness and respect are likely to be responded to by me.

[Th****]

That I want to fulfill all of their fantasies.

I have no idea why many male subs want me to peg them. I don't enjoy pegging. I don't get anything from it. Sending me links about pegging won't change my mind.

When I say that I'm not interested in something, you can't change my mind.

Dommes are allowed to say no too.

Edited December 13, 2024 by TheMacabreBrat
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[Th****]

  3 hours ago, SubmissionIsEarned said:

This is written to Dommes, however...EVERY woman with an online profile receives similar attention from 'sub' (DO ME) guys. Dommes may receive more messages from fantasists / genuine newbies who need educating although it's definitely not exclusive to dominants. How do you deal with them? Educate or ignore?

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I automatically block them. I have tried to educate them, but it's just a waste of time and energy. They usually push harder when you try to burst their fantasy bubble 

[Da****]

  41 minutes ago, TheMacabreBrat said:

That I want to fulfill all of their fantasies.

I have no idea why many male subs want me to peg them. I don't enjoy pegging. I don't get anything from it. Sending me links about pegging won't change my mind.

When I say that I'm not interested in something, you can't change my mind.

Dommes are allowed to say no too.

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This. Everyone thinks a domme must peg. So over it🙄

[Su****]

  8 hours ago, Lichesagainstporn said:

Ik you’re asking for domme’s opinion but I get a lot of misconceptions like that as well with other submissive males, not all of us are feminine, I just like looking like looking cute vs gruff and manly. Doesn’t mean I wanna be slapped in a dress

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Would you prefer to be slapped wearing a suit? 🤣

[Th****]

  15 hours ago, Lichesagainstporn said:

Ik you’re asking for domme’s opinion but I get a lot of misconceptions like that as well with other submissive males, not all of us are feminine, I just like looking like looking cute vs gruff and manly. Doesn’t mean I wanna be slapped in a dress

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Men aren't feminine. Who would have guessed. 🤣🙄

Dommes are allowed to have their likes too. If you don't like what they like, say something. It's why vetting matters.

Edited December 13, 2024 by TheMacabreBrat

[ge****]

Once again it comes back to the old "kink dispenser" thing that many sub males try and push onto dominants in order to get *their* fantasies fulfilled whilst completely overlooking that a dominant may have their own desires and likes.
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And yep, completely borne out of fantasy as are many of the demands made of Dommes.
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As a bisexual male I've experienced similar when I am contacted by other men, who immediately think not only am I "up for it" there and then, but that I am there to fulfill everything they want and more.

[Deleted Member]

A lot of male subs like to top from the bottom.

[Th****]

  On 12/19/2024 at 5:21 PM, GlittterCake said:

A lot of male subs like to top from the bottom.

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This, they're not *actually* submissive, they're bottoms with no clue what actual D/s is about. It can be quite exhausting to deal with. 

[Mi****]

  18 hours ago, ThaliaV said:

This, they're not *actually* submissive, they're bottoms with no clue what actual D/s is about. It can be quite exhausting to deal with. 

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Yes, I totally agree. I’m burned out at the minute.

[Mz****]

Male s/types assume that we enjoy looking at pictures of their dicks, their chest their tattoos they’re fucking commodes and their butt. They assume that we don’t read their profiles just like they don’t read ours and finally they assume that we don’t take this seriously.

[Daxon]

Iv struggled for years accepting I'm a submissive male, It's actually surprised me how empowering it has been to share this side of myself , although I am very early on in my kink journey, after chatting to a few woman on this site i have been genuinely shocked and pleasantly surprised at the level of  kindness and understanding woman can be in this community, something I never experienced in my marriage to a submissive woman, 

[Ki****]

That is the crazy that someone would just assume that, I am submissive male and I do identify as a sissy to femdoms and I do love it.
Would never just assume something that wild and say it that to someone I was interested in being a sub to. I think many of them are looking for a kink dispenser and not truly wanting to build a foundation on friendship and getting to truly know each other.

[Gr****]

• that I have a stable of very shy black men who really want to get their dicks sucked, but who seem unable to make that happen unless I, a black dominant woman, grant willing white men who contact me access to them. 
   
• that dominant women do not engage in PIV sex with submissive men. 
   
• that femdom porn accurately portrays the play preferences of lifestyle dommes.

[Female_diogenes]

Maybe that I always want to do Dom acts on him. More than 90 percent of the time I want to sub in action. I see all guys I've ever "subbed" with as just obeying my commands. I've been told this is common and it's been seen a lot because that's what a cuckoldress is, which I identify as too, but sometimes it just doesn't feel like it because people don't understand(?) that I see myself in a Dominant position despite requesting Dom acts of the guy. For example being tied up. People think I'm a sub in the scene because I'm doing what a sub would do by being tied. But I still consider myself Dom because the guy is tying me because I want it and asked him to