what's the one thing that defines D/s connection?

[Mu****]

Power, control, and ultimate trust—these are the foundations of a true D/s dynamic. As a sadistic Dom, nothing is more exhilarating than guiding a truly submissive woman who craves discipline, surrender, and the exquisite edge of *** and pleasure.

But tell me—what's the one thing that truly defines a deep and fulfilling D/s connection for you? Is it the ***, the obedience, the trust... or something more

[fl****]

For me, it's the ability to trust enough that I can shut off my mind and let go. My Dom will take care of me, tell me what he wants me to do, push me outside of my box. I don't have to worry about any of it, just be in the moment and feel.

[bo****]

Trust is by far the most important thing in the dynamic. Followed by respect for the sub.

I've always said in any form of sub/dom dynamic the sub is the more important person.

[Girthman]

Trust, respect and communication are the three pillars of any valued D/s relationship, plus of course the sub must be able to fully submit themselves to the dominant - no in between state of sometimes being submissive when it suits and definitely no 'topping from the bottom'. Clear boundaries are essential for the dynamic to work.

[Submissive_summer]

Many core foundations as already mentioned above.... Trust, Respect, Communication.. but there is another key one I believe is needed to reach a deeper level in any dynamic... and that is authenticity... being honest and transparent in intentions really does allow you to emotionally connect past the superficial layer

[Ca****]

Trust. I have dealt with too many dommes that were completely dishonest. Broken promises, lies. Then they say that it is part of a d/s relationship.

[Ma****]

Consistency is also important. I feel routine is important especially when it comes to brain washing and hyptno. But allowing the play to flow and evolve keeps the play stay fresh and exciting. Which in tangent helps solidify the Dom/Sub bond.

[DarkArts1066]

There is no “one” foundation or pillar on which a D/s connection is established - or maintained.
Some like (good) communication, mutual respect, honesty and truth are certainly the cornerstones though.

But - If I had to put it into one word ?
That word would be ‘empathy’…

Without that, a person has little hope of understanding the needs of others - which ties into the cornerstones mentioned above.

[DarkArts1066]

  2 hours ago, CandiAnabelle said:

Trust. I have dealt with too many dommes that were completely dishonest. Broken promises, lies. Then they say that it is part of a d/s relationship.

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There is NO place for dishonesty in a D/s relationship. Ever.
Transparency, yes.
Any self styled Dom who claims that dishonesty is part of a D/s relationship is a Wolf, playing the part of a Lamb.

[Ro****]

Trust!

[Se****]

I suppose the answer to this depends entirely on where in the course of the relationship the question occurs, at least to me it does. Different things become more or less important in a connection depending on where I am on my journey with the other person.

At the beginning reliability is a HUGE thing for me. Someone needs to be around when they say they’re going to be and respond and give me time and attention. Only when I believe in their reliability (and them allowing me access to them) can I even begin to think about trusting them and letting my walls down.

Further down the line, I can’t really put it into words. It’s a feeling I get from being in their presence, be that face to face, via text or call or online. Does their presence soothe me and allow me to not feel like I need to be hyper aware at all times, can I switch my brain off with them and just BE? Yes, an element of that is trust but it’s more, so very much more and when it occurs it’s intoxicating.

Apologies as I think I slightly went off on a tangent from your question, but that’s what I think for what it’s worth. 

[Yi****]

I thought it was the steampunk outfits

[Ze****]

I think is has to start with trust

[Ne****]

Respect. Trust. Basis for any relating or relationship. If those are present, communication would also be utmost.. regardless of role.

[Ne****]

  13 hours ago, Girthman said:

Trust, respect and communication are the three pillars of any valued D/s relationship, plus of course the sub must be able to fully submit themselves to the dominant - no in between state of sometimes being submissive when it suits and definitely no 'topping from the bottom'. Clear boundaries are essential for the dynamic to work.

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That I'd example of ONE dynamic but absolutely not every D/s entanglement and the things you described as mandatory simply aren't so for everyone...

[lo****]

The depth of the soul connection.

[goon2yu]

Irresistible chemistry,  intelligence and sense of humor.

[Deleted Member]

Trust and communication are 1/1A. In order to be able to truly explore each other in any dynamic there needs to be trust that even with punishment, that everyone is in a safe space to express themselves. 

 

Trust can't be had without communication which is why it's the 1A. Taking about boundaries, wants, desires and limits is imperative to building and maintaining that trust.

[ki****]

To me is yes trust communication to what individual wants and limitations to what they love in kink’s and fetish life

[Fe****]

The honesty. They wanted the sex I make them take to begin with but usually have no one safe to talk to about it. Seeing them open up, admit it, learn to say it and then feel it really makes me cum.