About me
I’m looking for:
- Friends
- Kinky Dates
- LTR (relationship)
- Events & Places
- Networking
- NSA (no strings...)
- Swingers
- BDSM Lovers
Description
Updated: December 14th, 2024.
After a few Years on this site, and many years on others and in the Community, I have decided to slim down my profile, and refocus on my primary fetishes and interests.
Please - take the time to read my whole profile. It is only polite, and may be to both our advantage.
First and foremost, I am a big breast fetishist, and have been since I was around 16 - a total of 43 years to date.
“Big” for those of you in doubt, is largely dependent on your frame size, as much as it is your back and cup size - so a woman who is a dress size 10 - for example, with 34C breasts has ‘big’ breasts.
(I hear often from women who say “my breasts aren’t big, but….” and quite often they ARE - hence the statement above !)
I love big breasts on a woman. Heavy, full, round, soft, firm, hanging, saggy, stretched - it really doen’t matter, as long as they are large.
There is no such thing as “too large” for me. I once met a woman with 40M breasts (UK size) and spent an amazing couple of hours in her company, worshipping her assets. Big areolae and long thick nipples that I can suckle, pull and stretch are very welcome.
I love to see a big pair of breasts, through clothing, to tease and flirt, stroke, touch, grope, squeeze, pull, expose…. and play.
That is my Utopia.
if you have an interest in breast and nipple play, breast sex and nipple orgasms, then look no further.
Everyone can have a nipple orgasm… the biggest block to this is self belief.
It IS possible, I can tell you that from my experience of helping others to explore and enjoy them.
I love women dressed in Fetishwear.
Silk and Satin tops, Leather, Latex and See through materials, as well as stretch fabrics all get me hot under the collar.
By nature, I am a Dominant, Disciplinarian Facilitator.
That sounds like a bit of a mouthful, but it is quite simple really.
I enjoy creating scenarios which give pleasure to others… feeding their specific fantasies - if you will. I can be your guide, teacher, instructor, smoking cessation clinician, and more for Ladies, and Couples.
I enjoy showing Couples how to make the best of their adventures in kink, and have done this many times over the years. my scenarios are original and creative. I have a good knowledge of venues - and other people who would be interested in joining you on your journey.
I am the Bull on your cuckold journey. Thoughtful and caring, but wanton, and devilishly decadent at times.
I spank, I paddle, I belt, I crop, I cane.
I can be your pleasure Dom, or your *** Dom - whichever suits your needs, as all aspects of Dominant/submissive play interest me. I enjoy instructing others in the “Dark Arts” of Domination and Discipline… single Ladies and Couples also.
Aftercare is ALWAYS given, and this is non-negotiable. It can take whichever form you require, and we will have many discussions about this - and your limits, before our journey begins.
I hate the term ‘Sapiosexual’ - however I would describe myself as one.
Intelligence, and the ability to articulate your thoughts and wishes is attractive to me.
I like a good cup of tea and a chat about kink and fetish matters, as much as I like to hold you over my knee for a well deserved spanking… so be prepared for both.
I travel.
A lot.
one of the perks of early retirement.
Please don’t assume that we are too far apart to meet, before we have spoken. I have travelled to Wales, Scotland, Germany and the U.S to meet like minded people before - some on a regular basis, so - “never say never” as the saying goes.
That will be all for now.
If you wish to know more -
to delve into the delicious, decadent, deviant mindset that I possess, you’ll need to message me.
If you choose to do so, please use the phrase “Delicious, Decadent, Deviant” in your headline - so that I know you have at least read my profile -because that is important - isn’t it ?
I look forward, very much, to hearing from you soon.
“DarkArts”.
Limits
I like to push the limits of others - with their permission- obviously.
As to my own limits, I am still discovering those one day at a time.
I am happy to discuss the more intimate aspects of those with someone who actually plans on meeting with me in the flesh - otherwise, what’s the point in sharing that level of intimate detail with total strangers ?
I have a fetish for big breasts, breast sex, binding, tying, nipple play, breast slapping and caning - and breast ***, so anyone who messages me regarding that topic will have my undivided attention.
I am a Disciplinarian - with considerable experience, and am alway on the lookout for a wayward bottom to spank, paddle, crop or cane. All the better if it comes with a purpose - for example, a misbehaviour of some sort. I will abide by your limits always, but soft limits are open to being flexed -with your permission.
My roles & archetype
My kinks & fetishes
I like:
- Abandonment Play
- Erotic Photography
- Accent Fetish
- Amateur Videos
- Anal Hook
- Anal Play
- Anal Sex
- Anal Plugs
- Fear Play
- Anonymous Sex
- Inflatable Gag
- Blindfolds
- Ball Gag
- BDSM
- Bondage Stocks
- Leg Fetish
- Bondage
- Bondage Bed
- Bondage Shackles
- Bondage Belt
- Bondage Cuffs
- Bondage Harness
- Bondage Yoke
- Bondage Hood
- Bondage Mouthguard Gag
- Bondage Rope
- Bondage Tape
- Breast Fetish
- Breath Play
- Breast Binder
- Breast Play
- Butts
- Chains
- Chastity
- Collar & Leash
- Corsets
- Cosplay
- Cuckold
- Cuckold Bull
- Cuddling
- Cunnilingus
- Deep Throating
- Lingerie Fetish
- Dildos
- Dirty Talk
- Discipline
- Domination
- Double Penetration
- Threesomes
- Edging
- Spandex Fetish
- Elbow Harness
- Erotic Art
- Erotic Film
- Erotica
- Sex Worker - Client
- Exhibitionism
- Extreme Bondage
- Female Ejaculation
- Restraints
- Fetish Wear
- FFM Threesome
- Fingering
- Fleshlight
- Floggers
- Foreplay
- Gangbang
- Torturer - Captive Prisoner
- Goth
- Group Sex
- Rubber Fetish
- Handcuffs
- Handjobs
- Handyman - Housewife
- Rough Sex
- High Heel Fetish
- Wedding Ring Fetish
- Humiliation
- Hobble Skirt
- Hypersexuality
- Kinky Sex
- Kissing
- Head Harness
- Costumes
- Patent Leather Fetish
- Lactation Fetish
- Lap Dance
- Latex Fetish
- Leather Fetish
- Leggings Fetish
- Masks
- Massage
- Masturbation
- Masturbation Machine
- MMF Threesome
- Multiple Orgasms
- Mutual Masturbation
- Nipple Clamps
- Nipple Play
- Nipples
- Nudism
- Nylon Fetish
- Oral Sex
- Orgasm Control
- Spanking Paddles
- Dogging
- Partner Swapping
- Pegging
- Pinching
- Plus-Size Women
- Polyamory
- Porn
- Adult Movie Theater
- Prostate Massager
- Prostate Milking
- Prostate Orgasm
- Quickies
- Role Play
- Sadism
- Sapiosexual
- Scratching
- Silk Fetish
- Sensory Deprivation
- Sex at Work
- Sex on the Beach
- Sex Chat
- Car Sex
- Elevator Sex
- Outdoor Sex
- Sex at the Movies
- Swimming Pool Sex
- Sex Parties
- Sex in the Water
- Shower Sex
- Sauna Sex
- Sex Machine
- Younger Sex Partners
- Older Sex Partners
- Sex Toys
- Sex Swing
- Photo Swapping
- Slave Training
- Spanking
- Cum Swallowing
- Sploshing
- Sports Gear Fetish
- Spreader Bar
- Squirting
- Steampunk
- Strap-on
- Striptease
- Stocking Fetish
- Submission
- Suspension Bondage
- Suspension Cuffs
- Swinger
- Sybian
- Sweet Pain
- Tantric Sex
- Underwear Fetish
- Uniform Fetish
- Subservience
- Vampire Gloves
- Vibrators
- Voyeurism
- Wax Play
- Wand Massager
- Watersports
- Wet Look Clothing
- Whips
My places
Fetish.com gives you…
Fetish.com is like an appetizing smorgasbord in Bushey Heath with lots of hot guys to meet up with. Have a look around first if you prefer to see who’s around, or if you know what you want, search by selecting the right category "Kinky Dating”. Nobody stays alone here for long! Fetish.com has tons going on!
After a few Years on this site, and many years on others and in the Community, I have decided to slim down my profile, and refocus on my primary fetishes and interests.
Please - take the time to read my whole profile. It is only polite, and may be to both our Read more… advantage.
First and foremost, I am a big breast fetishist, and have been since I was around 16 - a total of 43 years to date.
“Big” for those of you in doubt, is largely dependent on your frame size, as much as it is your back and cup size - so a woman who is a dress size 10 - for example, with 34C breasts has ‘big’ breasts.
(I hear often from women who say “my breasts aren’t big, but….” and quite often they ARE - hence the statement above !)
I love big breasts on a woman. Heavy, full, round, soft, firm, hanging, saggy, stretched - it really doen’t matter, as long as they are large.
There is no such thing as “too large” for me. I once met a woman with 40M breasts (UK size) and spent an amazing couple of hours in her company, worshipping her assets. Big areolae and long thick nipples that I can suckle, pull and stretch are very welcome.
I love to see a big pair of breasts, through clothing, to tease and flirt, stroke, touch, grope, squeeze, pull, expose…. and play.
That is my Utopia.
if you have an interest in breast and nipple play, breast sex and nipple orgasms, then look no further.
Everyone can have a nipple orgasm… the biggest block to this is self belief.
It IS possible, I can tell you that from my experience of helping others to explore and enjoy them.
I love women dressed in Fetishwear.
Silk and Satin tops, Leather, Latex and See through materials, as well as stretch fabrics all get me hot under the collar.
By nature, I am a Dominant, Disciplinarian Facilitator.
That sounds like a bit of a mouthful, but it is quite simple really.
I enjoy creating scenarios which give pleasure to others… feeding their specific fantasies - if you will. I can be your guide, teacher, instructor, smoking cessation clinician, and more for Ladies, and Couples.
I enjoy showing Couples how to make the best of their adventures in kink, and have done this many times over the years. my scenarios are original and creative. I have a good knowledge of venues - and other people who would be interested in joining you on your journey.
I am the Bull on your cuckold journey. Thoughtful and caring, but wanton, and devilishly decadent at times.
I spank, I paddle, I belt, I crop, I cane.
I can be your pleasure Dom, or your *** Dom - whichever suits your needs, as all aspects of Dominant/submissive play interest me. I enjoy instructing others in the “Dark Arts” of Domination and Discipline… single Ladies and Couples also.
Aftercare is ALWAYS given, and this is non-negotiable. It can take whichever form you require, and we will have many discussions about this - and your limits, before our journey begins.
I hate the term ‘Sapiosexual’ - however I would describe myself as one.
Intelligence, and the ability to articulate your thoughts and wishes is attractive to me.
I like a good cup of tea and a chat about kink and fetish matters, as much as I like to hold you over my knee for a well deserved spanking… so be prepared for both.
I travel.
A lot.
one of the perks of early retirement.
Please don’t assume that we are too far apart to meet, before we have spoken. I have travelled to Wales, Scotland, Germany and the U.S to meet like minded people before - some on a regular basis, so - “never say never” as the saying goes.
That will be all for now.
If you wish to know more -
to delve into the delicious, decadent, deviant mindset that I possess, you’ll need to message me.
If you choose to do so, please use the phrase “Delicious, Decadent, Deviant” in your headline - so that I know you have at least read my profile -because that is important - isn’t it ?
I look forward, very much, to hearing from you soon.
“DarkArts”.
I agree completely with gemini-man’s comment here. It does totally depend on the context and the situation one is in.
Perhaps consider it this way -
It’s highly unlikely that a client will ever be your Domme or sub….. therefore those two paths will never cross.
Honorifics in a BDSM context, and in Read more… your everyday life are similar -in that they are a mark of respect for another person, however the two outcomes are different -because the relationships you have with those two different groups of people are different.
Too many profiles that are empty on sites like these.
We really do need to come up with a better way of getting people who join - but how - unless they are paid sites.
And then, of course, they don’t generate the memberships required to justify their existence.
If I’m fake, then I’ve been fake for Read more… over 30 years.
And that means all the people I’ve met over the years have been fake…. All the places I’ve been are fake…. All the experiences I’ve had are fake.
And all the knowledge I have is fake.
So - my challenge to anyone who suggests as much is this.
Come and meet me. Have a coffee with me (my shout), -talk with me….
And then tell me that I am fake to my face.
Otherwise your opinions mean nothing.
Absolutely nothing.
I have a life.
I suggest you go get one too. 🤷🏻♂️
Agree. 100%.
This is how people end up found in hotel room wardrobes, naked, having unintentionally garrotted themselves.
BAD idea.
How do you truly know what you do and do not like - in regards to kink and fetish ?
Simple. By experiencing different aspects of it - first hand.
You can think and ponder all you will… but then there comes the day where you decide to go ‘all in’ and give something a whirl.
But - This is where you Read more… should let your head rule your heart.
I would like to hope that anyone who wants to explore and experiment has read up on SSC, RACK and PRICK principles first and foremost, as well as the 4C’s.
You don’t just walk into a bedroom and decide to tie your partner up, without first researching HOW to create safe ties, what NOT to do, and at least having some idea of the potential health risks involved, -as well as a pair of freshly purchased safety shears within ama reach at all times.
SSC stands for “Safe, Sane and Consensual”.
This is the cornerstone upon which all Kink and Fetish activities should sit - in my humble (but highly experienced) opinion.
You don’t learn to fly a plane, without first understanding the principles of flight….
Kink and Fetish activities are exactly the same.
And some, not all, carry the same risk of failure - and death, if done wrongly.
Let that sink in for a moment, and then start your research.
Good luck on your journey. I hope that you - and those you meet along the way enjoy it.
For me, it would be an intimate, non-sexual act, such as my sub buttoning my shirt when I am getting dressed. The closeness, body heat, scent…. Both parties are able to reconnect through those things, whether in normal everyday life as a partnership - or after a D/s session.
This.
This is all that needs to be said.
Put simply, you don’t.
People will either take to you - or not.
But you can’t always engineer that.
More often than not, it’s about how you approach someone, and how you communicate with them that makes the difference between further conversations, and perhaps a meet over a drink to discuss Read more… further - rather than how you ‘look’.
A few lines, or a short paragraph is always better than a one liner. Give the reader “a gift”.
Let them know something about “You” in that first paragraph, instead of telling them what you want from them.
That said, having a clean and tidy appearance, and smelling clean and fresh does make a difference at that first meeting.
There are certain golden rules for Men when posting a profile picture.
These have been gleaned from Ladies I have met - so do NOT shoot the messenger !
For example…
No one wants to see your Cat - or Dog. That’s just weird.
Likewise, no one wants to see your ego either… so that photo of you leaning against a Lamborghini - or Aston (whether it is yours - or more often - NOT) doesn’t show one in a good light.
Sailing pics…. Meh. See above.
You ‘hanging off’ while free climbing El Capitan doesn’t tell your intended that you are handy with a length of Jute and a flogger (although it does suggest that you have strong fingers….)
A smile can say more about a person than a look. If you look relaxed, approachable, friendly…. If you body stance is open, then those are positive things also.
No one wants to date a starey eyed guy, dressed in black, arms crossed, looking like he’s just wiped out an entire Family down the road…..
Or - a guy, sat in an armchair in a wife-beater vest with a shaggy unkempt beard, filled with cornflakes (YES … a sub I know DID get that as a first contact picture….!! 😳)
One woman I know won’t meet anyone called ‘Darren’ - because, in her words… “all the Darren’s I’ve met have been dickheads”
(Sorry Darren!)
Her choice - based on her experiences… but she won’t change that for anyone, no matter how nice a Darren you are.
Oh … and a lot of subs seem to like a Dom in a sharp suit, with a crisp white shirt (again, so I’m led to believe…)
Have a presence - and be yourself.
Someone out there will find you attractive - because you are being “You”.
Honesty.
Everything starts from there.
I follow SSC, RACK and PRICK guidelines, so Honesty is followed by good two way communication.
Everything else is a process of discussion and negotiation.
Another word on “filters”.
I know two women in their early 50’s …. Whose Facebook pictures of themselves on holidays and at events look nothing like them whatsoever.
I probably wouldn’t recognise them in the street - from there pictures - genyuinely.
They filter their husbands images also.
And I Read more… find myself wondering, what happens one day when they stop using those filters, and the 30 year old - with no laughter lines, ane no life experience is no longer looking back at them.
Will they lament at the years … decades they have suddenly lost….. ?
How do you the suddenly grow old gracefully -when it is thrust upon you like that ?
My hair is greying. A good mix of salt and pepper for a 59yr old. My face is weathered, with laughter lines. My forehead furrowed with experience….
And I am happy with the person looking back at me in the mirror.
Can others -who constantly over-filter their images on social media honestly say the same ?
Are we creating a whole new generation of older people with mental health and self image issues as a result ?
I wonder …………..
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