Poly Bohemian with ethics & imagination seeks
Am based in Sydney AND in Canberra, also Melbourne, Adelaide, parts in between. I live between here & the horizon; it's a long story...
NB: Not A Financial Member. Can't see SPANKS. Please identify yourself as I like to know who lays a hand on me (just an old-fashioned boy, that's me). Your name/label or date & time (UTC) you'll be back - if the words aren't flowing then & there.

I've been 'playing' with kink, reaching into the fire, for that matter, opening to and offering more intensity, more intimacy, than many of those around me - all my life. More is my normal.
Am into almost everything with the right playmate. Truth before people, people before outfits ... or roles. And please believe me, I just adore fetishwear & role-play. Costumes before vanilla, vanilla before mundane or routine, and connecting before play. If at all possible, intensity in all things.
And, I love Play, Costumes, Outfits, Roles. It's just that I'm remarkably fond of people & passions.
To be clear, I am really into adventures, but as a way of connecting to our best. Am told that I am a hard player. If that's what is called for, am certainly open to that. But I play according to the moment; hard or soft, tender or 'out there', appropriate to the connection. ...And requests.
Kink, for me, is primarily a way to access each other, if not ourselves. It is serious passion dressed up to party. It is intensity shared without holding back. Exquisite joy is the ideal, kink is how we get there. A very scenic journey with some powerful landscapes, not to mention a sense of wonder. Why go further or less than desired/needed?

I have my favourite kinks (ahem, quite a few) but won't endanger intimacy in pursuit of them - nor do I ever want to take anyone where they don't want to go. Getting the sexy drama just right is when the really amazing things happen. Also, at the end of the day, I am a most of all a fetishist. And intensity is a fetish, right?
Frankly, the number, range & extent of the things I find profoundly exciting is legion. The needs, desires, the exposed hunger of people I am intimate with is almost as important to me as their elected comfort zone. Consent - as much as possible, sanity & safety is where I start, but then, I reach for the stars! Self-respect dictates that I (we?) support and cultivate our appetites, our potential to reach for our utmost. And for me, overwhelm is important. Am definitely an Ethical hedonist.

Other things: Gloves & Heels. Tight & Shiny. Exotica erotica and more, will definitely move me, and my Richter scale, possibly even make a choir sing in my mind. Ye gods, so many wonderfulls... Wigs, costuming, tears, song & poetry. In fact, try me, I'll probably like or be able to like it.

Am frequently requested into the role of a seductive &/or sadistic Top. This is great... I just want more. Libido, twisted, dark imaginings & appreciation for delicious evil. These are all in good supply there.
But, actually I suspect I would love to be taken somewhere I've never been! For me, surrender is almost certainly going to be a giving thing, and that is going to be evoked by your needs far more than attitude. (although costumes definitely help!)
Comfortable & open about desires & situation,
but believe we can't really know more than the general direction we'd like to go with someone -until we've met - if not much more.

Am profoundly opposed to bigotry of any kind: your age, size, shape, weight, kids, looks, beliefs, employment, status, religion, disability, race, age are secondary compared to how you treat me and your investment in play & our time together. Sexy visuals are great - so very great - but secondary. Truly, I am more interested in your needs & desires than any of the surface things.
A long term fan of casual OR committed; it's the enthusiasm, the quality and not least, the happy factor that is always important to me. That said, your deviant imagination & appetites will get my attention...
NB: Am serious about the non-smoking thing.

Desires and Fantasies
_Intensity, Trust, Loyalty. These are magic words. What can we do for one another & how well can we do it?!?
These days, I am a professional actor & singer & and director, but I've always been a storyteller.
How far through the looking glass do you dare? How much Joseph Campbell would you be up for? Where would you like to go/take me today?
Am equal parts sexual, sensual, wicked, perverse, compassionate, & profoundly romantic. Lastly, my belief is that there is a time and a place for everything, including the darker corners of the sub-conscious. Let's celebrate the dark corners. Plumb them for all they may yield. Talk to me about yours, mine & the unexplored country in between.

Depends very much on the person, and more than a little on what they are wearing.